My Family...My Life

My Family...My Life

Friday, February 25, 2011

~ NINE LIES BY MY MOTHER ~



       The story began when I was a child;
       I was born the only son in a poor family, and without a father.
       For our daily meals, there was hardly much to eat.
       My mother often gave me her portion of rice.
       While she was scooping her rice into my plate,
       she would say ... 'Eat this rice, son. I'm not hungry'.
       That was Mother's First Lie

       When I was growing up,
       my super-caring mother did whatever a single mother could do for
       her only son.
       More than that, she even went down the narrow stream to catch
       fish for our meals.
       She would cook them into a simple soup, which raised my appetite. 
        
       While I ate the fish-meat, mother would sit beside me andlicked the fish-bone.
       I would share my pieces of fish with her.   But she would refuse.
       And she told me this ... 'Eat this fish, son.  I don't really
       like fish.'
       That was Mother's Second Lie.

       Then, when I was in secondary school, to raise money to get me
       my books, mother went to collect old and used-bags and paper cartons, to
       be sold to hawkers by the roadside. It brought her extra money to cover our 
       needs.   Then I remember, most nights,
       as I woke up and looked at her still folding and sorting those
       heaps of old cartons,supported by just a small flickering candle, I used to say to
       her ... 'Ma, go to sleep, it's late.
       Tomorrow morning you still have to go to work in the factory'.  Mother smiled and 
       said ... 'Go to sleep, my dear son.  I'm not tired.'
       That was Mother's Third Lie.

       One time after my final term examination in school,
       my mother asked for no-pay-leave from the factory where she had
       worked for many long years,and waited for me at the school gate for hours.   She 
       wanted to see how I did in my last paper. But most important of all, she had made an
       iced-tea for me, to help refresh me, the moment I came out.  Seeing my ma all sweaty
       and tired, I at once gave her the tea instead. Mother said ... 'Drink, son.  This is for
       you.  I'm not thirsty!'.
       That was Mother's Fourth Lie.

       Seeing our home condition getting worse by the day, there was a
       distant relative who lived near our house, came over to help us, whether it was a
       small or a big problem at hand. Our other neighbours used to advise my mother to 
       marry again to someone who could support us. But mother, without fail, always replied
       in ways like ... 'I don't need love and support'.
       That was Mother's Fifth Lie.

       After I finished school, I got a job.   I wanted my mother to
       retire.   But she didn't want to.   She did leave her factory job, alright. But still went
       round collecting those old bags and cartons. I was by then transferred to anothe
       town.  I sent her money every month.  But often, she would save them, and gave them  
       back to me in a lump-sum months later !
       She used to say ... 'I have enough money.'
       That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

       I was next asked to work in our headquarters in Kuala Lumpur,
       and within a short time,   I was promoted twice, as my boss felt I contributed well
       and beyond his expectations.
       After several years, I bought an apartment in a nice area, and I
       wanted my mother to live with me.
       I wanted her to sit back and enjoy her life, now that I could
       afford to give her so much more.
       But my ma would again tell me that ... 'The big city is not for
       me.'
       That was Mother's Seventh Lie.
                

       I met a nice girl, and we got on very well.  Within two years,
       we married.
       I asked my mother to come and live with us.  I felt it would be
       best if the two golden women in my life lived under one roof with me.  I wanted so 
       much to share everything with my two most-precious angels.
       Then again, ma would say to me ... 'Son, your life now is to be
       spent with your wife only. Mama should not be beside you anymore.  My job in taking
       care of you is now over.Just walk ahead, my dearest son, and build your life and your
       home with your wife.Do not include me in your scheme of things'.        
       That was Mother's Eighth Lie
        
       The wheel of time spinned so fast that soon, my mother was
       aging, and she suffered from cancer.
       When I saw her in the hospital, she looked so weak and thin.
       I looked at her, with tears flowing down my face.               
       My heart was so hurt, seeing the person who brought me
       into this world in such a bad condition.
       But mother, with her last ounce of strength, said to me... 'Don't cry, my dear son.
       I'm not in pain.   And I will want to leave you and everything
       behind'.
       That was Mother's Ninth Lie. 
       After saying her ninth lie, she closed her eyes forever.  
       
       Now, in my solitude and moments of deep reflection,                       
       I realise I should never have naively believed in all those lies
       of hers.

Ok,,,after reading this article, now i realized that my late mothers too had in fact lied to us in many aspects but the lyings are for the benefits of us....when we were young, we tend to believe what our mothers said to us.......in a way,.they lied as to make us happy and fulfilled our needs..they care for us, they love us and their love for us have no limits and have no ends...a never ending love....this everlasting love goes on and on forever and ever...no matter whether she is alive or she is gone, their love for us and our love for them still lingers on....that's why mothers are so special.....

Now, that we are mothers ourselves, we do the same things to our children without realizing that what we,too, lied to our children maybe in different ways....we lied on certain things ......as far as we,, mothers are concerned, love and happiness for the children is what we want for them to have in life....these come naturally thru a mother's heart....nothing fake about it...




A mother’s love is the purest love on Earth; it represents the highest level of sacrifice and since her baby is born, till the day she dies, a mother is bound to the fruit of her womb and her love is always poured on her child. Caring from the first heartbeats of her young, trough the long feverish nights and counseling the young teenage heart that has fallen in love for the first time…

 Al-Fatihah to my late mothers....arwah ibu and arwah mak


......MaMaZuE.....



Hello Weekend....

I wonder how this weekend gonna be...
 
but am always looking forward for it to come..
 
The whole week was gone and it was full with loads and loads of work...
 
Well, talking about work, it's a non-ending task..
 
every working day is a busy day but full of fun
 
no matter how busy we are, we just have to be happy and cheerful...
 
If not, we'll get sulky and moody ,
 
then everything will be upside down...
 
then others won't be happy too...
why worry,
 
now, it's the weekend...
 
no need to think about work...
 
Get some rest and relax...and do the thing we like to do with the family...
What's up for tomorrow....
 
no plans as yet but definitely, 
 
baking apple crumble is a must....
 
Why???
 
because i've got orders for a birthday function 
 
at my boss's house on Sunday...and it is in Kuantan
 
and that means
 
Sunday is gone as I need to attend the birthday function...

What else can i say...

so, i won't have much rest this weekends...
 
normally, i would just like to laze at home and relax my mind by reading, 
 
watching my favourite movies, cooking and simply do what i like....
 
 As for tomorrow,
i don't have any layout plans as to what to do...
 
well, maybe doing some marketing and shop around....
As for tonite....

i would really like to go to sleep and have a very good rest.....
 




MaMaZuE


Kisah susu ibu...menarik cerita nih...



Haaa....ni kisah  benar dan menarik nih ! Baik korang semua baca ! Citer dia camni .....   

Alkisah pada suatu masa, di sebuah hospital bersalin di Amerika. Maka  ada le dua orang ibu yang melahirkan sorang anak lelaki dan sorang lagi anak  pompuan. Masalahnya, kedua-dua ibu tadi, mengaku yang mereka melahirkan anak  lelaki tersebut ! Ni kes berebut anak lelaki le.... Oleh kerana mereka  melahirkan pada waktu dan masa yang sama, maka timbul le sedikit masalah bagi  menentukan ibu yang sebenar bagi anak lelaki tersebut.

Pada waktu tersebut,  tiada lagi ujian DNA. Maka doktor pakar dari Amerika bertanya le pada kawan dia,  sorang doktor dari mesir, macam mana nak selesaikan masalah tersebut. Dia orang  dah buat ujian darah dah, malangnya, kedua-dua ibu tersebut mempunyai kumpulan  darah yang sama. Lagi rumit masalah tersebut! Maka doktor Amerika tu tanya  le doktor dari mesir, macam mana nak selesaikan masalah ni, sebab dia dengar  orang kata Islam dan Al-Quran ni agama yang sempurna, dan setiap masalah ada  penyelesaiannya di dalam Al-Quran. 

Maka terkedu le doktor dari mesir tuh! Nak  tak nak, doktor dari mesir tu, ajak doktor Amerika tu berjumpa dengan sorang  kawannya, iaitu seorang ulama terkenal dari mesir. Maka ulama dari mesir tu  tanya le apa masalahnya. Setelah diceritakan segalanya, maka ulama mesir  tersebut tersenyum. Korang nak tau tak, apa yang dia suruh buat ?  Alah...bukannya suruh potong dua cam dalam citer melayu lama tuh ! Ulama mesir  tadi suruh diperah susu kedua-dua ibu yang melahirkan anak tadi! Dan dibuat  ujian tentang kandungan kalsium, zat galian dan sebagainya! Setelah selesai  ujian, mereka diminta membawa keputusan ujian dan berjumpa semula dengan ulama  ter sebut. 

So, setelah dapat  keputusan ujian, maka mereka pun bertemu semula dengan ulama tersebut. Nak tau  apa keputusannya ? Salah satu dari susu ibu tersebut, mengandungi 2 kali ganda  bahan-bahan seperti kalsium, zat galian dan apa-apa yang sepatutnya berada di  dalam susu ibu.

Maka ulama mesir tersebut berkata, ibu yang mempunyai susu yang  mempunyai bahan-bahan 2 kali ganda itulah ibu sebenar kepada anak lelaki  tersebut ! Maka doktor amerika tadi bertanya, apa buktinya di dalam Al-Quran,  maka ulama mesir memberitahu bahawa, bahagian untuk anak lelaki itu adalah 2  kali ganda dari anak perempuan, begitu jugalah dalam soal pembahagian harta  pusaka. 

Jadi, oleh kerana itu adalah hukum Allah, susu ibu juga merupakan  'harta', maka untuk anak lelaki, adalah 2 bahagian, berbanding untuk anak  perempuan ! Jadi dalam soal harta pusaka dan sebagainya...



......MaMaZuE.....