chilling SuNdAy

GOOD MORNING TO ALL...

This new year starts with  a very chilling weather that could always chill up your mind and senses...

The wind blows so hard with the raindrops keep on falling non-stop at times...

Normally, this rainy season starts in October,November and might drag on till December but this year, it is totally different from other years....

It began in December and drag till January.,...

Hopes that everything would be more different this year in many other things in our life...

Hopes things will get more straightened up then last year's turmoil...

Hopes life would be more cheerful and lively as we go on with it....

Hopes our family is being blessed by the AlMighty for as we had definitely accept what had happened to us last year was just a challenge...

Hopes that we can be stronger each day to face the obstacles, the roadblocks, the agonies and problems...

Hopes everything will be in a better shape this year...

We always hope for the BEST in everything we do in life...

If there is any resolution to be fulfilled, start now ...don't hesitate....

Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right.

Love the ones who don't just because you can.. Believe everything happens for a reason

If you get a second chance, grab it with both hands.

If it changes your life, let it.

Kiss slowly.

Forgive quickly.

God never said life would be easy.

He just promised it would be worth it.....

A MOTHER’S LOVE LASTS FOREVER

A MOTHER’S LOVE LASTS FOREVER

                                   

For most mothers, the love they feel for their children is a strong and powerful bond that will continue throughout their lives. The love a mother feels for her child is the same whether the child was grown in their own body or in their heart, as when a mother adopts a child.

My children are dear to me and I find it hard to see them in pain. I feel like a
mother hen watching over her baby chicks. Children are tough in some areas, but always need to know they are loved, wanted and are priceless to us, at any age. Even when our children don't need us any longer to tie their shoestrings or to wipe their noses, they still need to know that we care. Often a child will not feel the impact of their mother's love until they become a parent themselves or their mother is no longer living. Then, the power of a lifetime of love their mother provided sets in.

To love and accept our children, even when they are driving us nuts and their behavior is horrid is most challenging. But the mix of unconditional love and loving limits are the most important duties and obligations a mother can have. Hugs and kisses are a necessity. Love can be expressed in many other ways too, including the discipline and responsibility we give to our children. Eye contact and a simple touch on the shoulder or a love pat on the back mean so much and cost so little. Try today to think of ways you can show your children how much you love and value them.

Here are a few demonstrations of love I have found my children are fond of. You can adapt these suggestions according to the ages of your child.


Outward expressions of affection for your spouse such as holding
hands and warm hugs are good examples of love and security you can give to your children.

Tuck little thoughtful love notes in their lunches, written on a napkin or
notepaper or under their pillow.

Saying a simple, "I love you!" A smiley face or you're the greatest!

Ask them to read to you - whatever they want - for 10 minutes.

Spend time listening - this is sometimes hard with an active lifestyle,
but more important than ever. Even 5 minutes can do wonders for a child's self image. Remember good eye contact is one of the keys. Pull yourself away from the computer or desk and sit with them face to face. Mirror their body language, moving forward as they do, or sitting on the floor with them.

For younger children even up to 10 years old, holding them on your lap for a minute or two might seem silly, but most kids miss the times when they were younger and were just held and comforted.

With my teenage son, I ask him to sit next to me as we curl up and watch a movie together on the couch. At 5' and above of coz they are taller than me," he rolls his eyes, but he likes it. Now, on occasion, he does it from habit, but not in front of friends. Big kids need hugs too.

Share in their hobby or interest. For example, cycling may not be your adventure at 42, but ask them to cycle with you once in a while. My kids simply love football and adore watching football..so i have to make it as one of my interest too.They like to play carom so carom becomes our family game especially when we are in a bunch... Look at what they can do - kids love to show off to their parents, so watch. Listen for, "Watch this mom!" Put down what you're doing and really watch and praise them for their effort. Encourage them to keep trying. Smile and verbally respond.

Surprise them by buying their favorite magazine without being asked to. Just put it in their room with a little note - Thought of you today! Love, Mom....My husband bought my children magazines about "landrovers" or "motoring"as they simply adore cars and that interests start from when they were toddlers...

Take time to lie on blankets on the bed at night and talk about what we did the whole day. This is one we do as a family . When we went for camping ,we cuddled each other and always have fun, looking up and just sharing, telling stories - listening to the crickets and being together. We fall asleep under the stars until it gets so cold that we all run indoors, dragging blankets behind us. These are no more than simple memory makers.

On occasion we have a "backwards day", where we eat dessert first and then the main course; kids love it when their parents are silly at times.


Let them make their own family photo scrapbook - try color copying some of photos in your photo albums - this way you are not losing valuable photos if they cut them up. Old cards and gift-wrap can make nice backgrounds and borders.

The best way to let them know you care is to hear it from you. In our family, every day we say, "Did I tell you today that I love you? Well I do and I love you more than all the leaves on the trees or all the minutes you are on the computer." That will prompt them to respond with how they love me more than all the sand pebbles or the raindrops that fell this month. Even the big kids need to hear this. They might act as if they are annoyed, but it is sinking in. It has been my daily practice every nite before the boys go to sleep, they'll give me a loving hugs and kisses and say "I love u forever and ever" .

LIFE.........

LIFE

Opinions, beliefs and convictions vary from person to person. You can see a person's outlook from the actions that he takes, his health condition, the people he hangs around with, his attitude, his contributions, and his habits.

Quite a number of people have done outstanding things with their lives and made a difference. They served mankind and changed the way humans think and do things. Many others have changed their individual living standards and prospered.

The majority of people alive are doing their best to feel comfortable. They do wish for better things but they don't make much progress. They are afraid to move out of their comfort zones. They go about their routines. They are up in the morning, rush through the traffic to get to work, spend about eight hours at the workplace repeating the same tasks, rush back home, watch a lot of television, eat and then sleep, with some socializing in between. And they call that living.

"People "died" all the time in their lives. Parts of them died what they made the wrong kinds of decisions - decisions against life. Sometimes they died bit by bit until finally they were just living corpses walking around. If you were perceptive you could see it in their eyes; the fire had gone out. But you always knew when you made a decision against life. When you denied life you were warned. The cock crowed, always, somewhere inside of you. The door clicked and you were safe inside - safe and dead." - Anne Morrow Lindbergh

Tips to Living Life to the Fullest

See, do and experience everything you possibly can.

What you can do to experience more meaning and purpose is allowing your fascinations to continue as you grow. Become conscious of what's happening within and around you. Sharpen your interest to learn, to know, to feel, to think and to act. Learn more about yourself through reflection. Know the reasons you do what you do.

Develop a sense of adventure. Give yourself the opportunity to get involved in activities that give you pleasure and joy. Find satisfaction from the things you do and stretch yourself to experience the best results.

Get to know people from different background and cultures. You will open your mind to new things that can help you understand and appreciate life and living.

Make progress each day.

Write down a list of your goals and dreams. Plan out the strategies and take action. Do something every day without fail and keep on going until you reach each of the goals in your list. Develop self discipline.

Make your own choices and decisions. Put yourself in a state of mind that allows you to function at your best. Learn how to truly take control of your personal, professional and social life. Use your time in the best possible way.

Healthy Living.

The most vital aspect of living is being in good health. People who have almost everything but aren't healthy feel that life is not worth living.

Healthy living consist of eating well, regular exercise, proper breathing, being in healthy relationships, enjoying and loving life, absence of greed, jealousy and resentments and not addicted to toxic substances.

Manage your emotions.

You can control how you feel. You can respond to adversity without breaking down or giving up. Let your emotions trigger you to have more love and living instead of anger and hatred.

Remain calm and composed in difficult situations. Add a sense of humor to your setbacks. Don't bring your anger to another day. If you are feeling lost, get in touch with your inner self.

Put aside a little quiet time each day to gather your thoughts and recognize your emotions that are blocking your progress.

Perform generous acts.

Practice the act of giving. Listen to what others have to say. Speak kind words. Offer your smile. Give love and warmth. Speak the truth. Contribute your time and energy to bring joy to others.

Learn to feel grateful. See the beauty and positive intent in others and things. Send out positive thoughts and energy.

Focus on your current moment.

Be happy with yourself at the present moment but continue to design a better future. Get yourself busy and get creative. Stay positive so that you will notice the blessings the universe has to offer.

Live by your personal values and philosophy. Dictate your own existence and choose to create your own happiness. Maintain balance in your relationships, career and personal growth so that you will feel in control.

Use your creative imagination.

The potential of a new day is endless. Each new day is a new beginning and it gives you the chance to start fresh, to make your dreams come true and change your life. Don't waste it because once it's over, it's finished and you will suffer the consequences of your neglect.

Hardship, negativity and bad experiences happen. Use your brain, your mind and your creative imagination to make your vision becomes a reality. Focus on the positive side of things and create your own miracles.

Detachment.

At times you feel that you have to battle against people and circumstances. Many times you may get frustrated with the constant struggles that you have to overcome. Face, accept them and let go. Don't try to escape from any pressing situation.

Allow people and things to be what they are meant to be. You don't have to try and change the unchangeable. Learn to let go of anything or anyone who is pushing you down. Become bold enough to live your true purpose and rise above your mediocre existence.

p/s:   Read it as to guide us in leading this modern life which is very hectic and always would make feel really letargic....Managed to get this article through the internet...good piece of knowledge to be shared.....

Writing & sharing articles makes me happy, cheerful and passionate....

WOW.....now that i'm having my own blog...i can write and share good articles that i managed to collect from my friends' emails or via the internet....I will be adding more articles to the list day by day as time and space permits....Well, topics includes various subjects about life, children, time, friendship, love , recipes ,advices through tazkirah and other interesting jokes and inspirational stories....

Reading is one of my favourite thing to do during leisure..I like facebooking and browsing the internets to get more ideas in handling good life in marriage and parenting...

Being a working mum of 5 boys, i lead a very hectic kind of life whereby i, too have to travel five days a week at a distance and spend at least 2 hours on the road ,drving to and fro.... Besides, I need to spend 2 more hours with my 3 school-going children almost every nite as to guide them with their studies and homeworks...(two of them are in college) some might say, it is not easy and some might say that i'm lucky...why? because I have a good maid to assist me all along....By the way, this maid had been with me for 9 solid years...

I want to fill up my life with full of fun , laughter and not stress besides all the mistakes,  obstacles and roadblocks that i had gone through all the years in my life.....it is so true...but due to all my patience and full strength and full support from my family and friends.. in fighting the troubles, i managed to move on and on.....


So, I start writing notes in the facebook and noticed that i have quite a number of admirers and wanted me to be their friends as to share my articles posted in the notes....

From there, i just thought of creating my own blog and share the articles with my other friends out there....To me, life is a learning experience, the more I pay attention to and use what I learn through the stories and articles, the better my life becomes.

I am passionate about sharing what I learn in order to help others too.

This blog provides a fantastic place to explore what i learn with a community that is also interested in learning...

To sum it all....live simply...
                      love generously...
                       care deeply....
                        speak kindly....
                          leave the rest to Allah.....


Happy reading....