Attitude is everything.....Attitude changes everything...

Hello everyone...based on my last entry, i would like to continue writing about attitude...because i think attitude really is playing a vital role in our living...so, then, came an idea of sharing it all with u...Hopefully, everyone can have a change of attitude from negative to positive.....

The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, then circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness, or skill. It will make or break a company, a family, a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. 

We cannot change our past. We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it. And so it is with you. We are in charge of our attitudes. 

Let's read this story as an inspirational beginning for all of u out there.... 


ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING

Jerry was the kind of guy you love to hate. He was always in a good mood and always had something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, "If I were any better, I would be twins!"
He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, "I don't get it! You can't be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?"
Jerry replied, "Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood.' I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life."
"Yeah, right, it's not that easy", I protested.
"Yes it is," Jerry said. "Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It's your choice how you live life."
I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in a restaurant business: he left the back door open one morning, and was held up at gunpoint by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him. Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body. I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, "If I were any better, I'd be twins. Wanna see my scars?"
I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. "The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door", Jerry replied. "Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live, or I could choose to die. I chose to live.
"Weren't you scared? Did you lose consciousness?", I asked.
Jerry continued, "The paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the emergency room and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read, 'He's a dead man'. I knew I needed to take action."
"What did you do?", I asked.
"Well, there was a big, burly nurse shouting questions at me", said Jerry. She asked if I was allergic to anything. "Yes", I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply... I took a deep breath and yelled, "Bullets!" Over their laughter, I told them, "I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead."
Jerry lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.

Attitude is everything.  A person who has the ability to look beyond the outside of a person or what they might project....is a person who knows how to reflect upon other people's needs and know themself well.  They know how to react to people.  They do not rush to judgement on others and look honestly at any given situation and do not try to make themselves look better than everyone else.  They do not seek all of the attention....they give others a chance to shine.  These people know how to deal with a stress situation and know that all things can usually be fixed with the right frame of mind and that getting angry, upset and out of sorts does nothing to resolve an issue.  A person who has a determined mindset,  can see the bright side of all things and has sensibility to go with it; and it is evident that these types of individuals who have the right "Attitude" go further than those who believe their smarts are the best part of their life. Please note that there is nothing wrong with being highly educated but, being educated does not necessarily give one a ticket to Success.  Education must be mixed with interpersonal skills.

In our quest for the right attitude.....we must remember that our philosophy is not the only one either.  What our principles and knowledge is; is not the beginning or the end of all things.  Meaning, other people's principles and knowledge counts also and that all of us can learn something to make our life better from each other.  Yes, we can learn from the drunk on the street, if we so choose.  When we look down on the little old man lying in the street dog drunk; what put him there?  How could you possibly be there and do you have the courage to try to help the him or a person like him?  Remember; Attitude is everything.  Trying to help another soul is part of the "Attitude Is Everything."  None of us want to be there; how do we know how far we are from this awful thing or something like it?  Being thankful is part of the right attitude also and being humble and know that we are all "sinners, saved by grace" so to speak.  By the skin of our teeth we just might have missed some bad things in life. 

 -mAmAzUe-

Story about a Mother in Law...

 Hi there....just thot of writing about mother in law & how special my mum in law is to me...

A mum whom I would be respecting for the whole of my life…my mums had passed away…I have 4 mums in my life..my real mum, my foster mum, my step-mum & my mum in law…..i am not really closed wiih my step mum as I don’t really see her often but our relationship is good..

My mum in law is woman who is very caring, lovable,  motherly, hardworking, full of enthusiasm, talkative and lives in simplicity…she had a very long history in life esp in upbringing her 9 children (5 boys and 4 girls). Almost all of her children succeeded in life academically . Though life was hard when she was young but she survived with a husband who was then a policeman and earned a minimum salary to survive in life. 

She has a special instinct of a mum and could always sensed  something if anything were to happen to any of her children in the long run.  She is so concerned about each and every one in the family but won’t interfere any but had always given a good advice and not to side on her own children’s fault.  Well, at the age of early 80’s , she is not as strong as before but could still managed her own life with the help of a maid. 

Her life is always full of worries and doubts. As a mother she feels that she needs to know everything about her children. Still worried about what’s next and next.  By right, she should just be resting comfortly in her big home living without any worries and just think about her old days and not to worry about what is happening to all her children because her children are all big enough  to understand what is life within them. 

In her life now and without a husband around, she just need a shoulder to cry on, a pillow to rest her head, a companion to share her 1001 stories, a tv to watch a drama, a person to lean on and all her children around her every now & then to ease her ending days of life.  Thank God, she can still move around although at times she is having some aches in her bodies and she has to monitor her blood pressure .  

I am a mother of 5 sons and would not know what to expect from all of them in future.  How am I when I myself be a mother in law. How will it be?  Can I be a good and respectful mother in law, so to say .  Those days, when we talked about mother in laws, they are always referred to the wicked ones and so bossy and possessive about their own children and never care about their daughter  or son in laws.  The daughter in laws are always bad to them....or to the eyes of a daughter-in-law, a mother in law is always so fussy and what-nots...

To me, it all depends on the individual's attitude...let our children lead their own life with their own family...let them survive and settle their own problems..let them think and be independant....let them face the future ..That doesn't mean we don't bother ....Nevertheless , we can still give them advises, shower them with love and care forever...but not nagging them...we should be fair to both, our children and our son/daughter in laws...we must not be so possessive as they r not ours anymore although deep inside us , they r still our children..be respectable so that they can respect, not hating us...

Many things that i had learnt thru my mum in law...she is not totally possesive of her son or daughter, she is such an understanding lady and i really respect her for that..marrying her son who WAS a very  temperamental person is not easy & how to manage and make things work till 2day is also not an easy task...i tried and i succeeded....bad experiences taught us to be stronger each day...
 

Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.

Alhamdulillah...

well, before i end up my entry tonite, this is a wonderful story about a mother in law...please read on...

A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.

Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.

All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.

Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you. Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."
Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs.
He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.

Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed.

Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.

The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.

One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."

Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.

There fore, attitude plays an important role in managing life..

. ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING....SET YOURSELF AS A GOOD EXAMPLE TO ALL OF YOUR CHILDREN....

mY mUm iN lAw with mY hUsBaNd

1 LOVE MY MUM IN LAW LIKE MY OWN MUM......

MaMaZuE