A mum whom I would be respecting for the whole of my life…my mums had passed away…I have 4 mums in my life..my real mum, my foster mum, my step-mum & my mum in law…..i am not really closed wiih my step mum as I don’t really see her often but our relationship is good..
My mum in law is woman who is very caring, lovable, motherly, hardworking, full of enthusiasm, talkative and lives in simplicity…she had a very long history in life esp in upbringing her 9 children (5 boys and 4 girls). Almost all of her children succeeded in life academically . Though life was hard when she was young but she survived with a husband who was then a policeman and earned a minimum salary to survive in life.
She has a special instinct of a mum and could always sensed something if anything were to happen to any of her children in the long run. She is so concerned about each and every one in the family but won’t interfere any but had always given a good advice and not to side on her own children’s fault. Well, at the age of early 80’s , she is not as strong as before but could still managed her own life with the help of a maid.
Her life is always full of worries and doubts. As a mother she feels that she needs to know everything about her children. Still worried about what’s next and next. By right, she should just be resting comfortly in her big home living without any worries and just think about her old days and not to worry about what is happening to all her children because her children are all big enough to understand what is life within them.
In her life now and without a husband around, she just need a shoulder to cry on, a pillow to rest her head, a companion to share her 1001 stories, a tv to watch a drama, a person to lean on and all her children around her every now & then to ease her ending days of life. Thank God, she can still move around although at times she is having some aches in her bodies and she has to monitor her blood pressure .
I am a mother of 5 sons and would not know what to expect from all of them in future. How am I when I myself be a mother in law. How will it be? Can I be a good and respectful mother in law, so to say . Those days, when we talked about mother in laws, they are always referred to the wicked ones and so bossy and possessive about their own children and never care about their daughter or son in laws. The daughter in laws are always bad to them....or to the eyes of a daughter-in-law, a mother in law is always so fussy and what-nots...
To me, it all depends on the individual's attitude...let our children lead their own life with their own family...let them survive and settle their own problems..let them think and be independant....let them face the future ..That doesn't mean we don't bother ....Nevertheless , we can still give them advises, shower them with love and care forever...but not nagging them...we should be fair to both, our children and our son/daughter in laws...we must not be so possessive as they r not ours anymore although deep inside us , they r still our children..be respectable so that they can respect, not hating us...
Many things that i had learnt thru my mum in law...she is not totally possesive of her son or daughter, she is such an understanding lady and i really respect her for that..marrying her son who WAS a very temperamental person is not easy & how to manage and make things work till 2day is also not an easy task...i tried and i succeeded....bad experiences taught us to be stronger each day...
Sometimes struggles are exactly what we need in our lives. If God allowed us to go through our lives without any obstacles, it would cripple us.
Alhamdulillah...
well, before i end up my entry tonite, this is a wonderful story about a mother in law...please read on...
A long time ago in China, a girl named Li-Li got married and went to live with her husband and mother-in-law. In a very short time, Li-Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in-law at all.
Their personalities were very different, and Li-Li was angered by many of her mother-in-law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li-Li constantly.
Days passed days, and weeks passed weeks. Li-Li and her mother-in-law never stopped arguing and fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li-Li had to bow to her mother-in-law and obey her every wish.
All the anger and unhappiness in the house was causing Li-Li's poor husband great distress.
Finally, Li-Li could not stand her mother-in-law's bad temper and dictatorship any longer, and she decided to do something about it.
Li-Li went to see her father's good friend, Mr. Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation and asked if he would give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once and for all. Mr. Huang thought for a while, and finally said, Li-Li, I will help you solve your problem, but you must listen to me and obey what I tell you. Li-Li said, "Yes, Mr. Huang, I will do whatever you tell me to do."
Mr. Huang went into the back room, and returned in a few minutes with a package of herbs.
He told Li-Li, "You can't use a quick acting poison to get rid of your mother-in-law, because that would cause people to become suspicious. Therefore, I have given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meal and put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspects you when she dies, you must be very careful to act very friendly towards her. Don't argue with her, obey her every wish, and treat her like a queen."
Li-Li was so happy. She thanked Mr. Huang and hurried home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in-law.
Weeks went by, and months went by, and every other day, Li-Li served the specially treated food to her mother-in-law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in-law, and treated her like her own mother. After six months had passed, the whole household had changed.
Li-Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't had an argument with her mother-in-law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with.
The mother-in-law's attitude toward Li-Li changed, and she began to love Li-Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends and relatives that Li-Li was the best daughter-in-law one could ever find. Li-Li and her mother-in-law were now treating each other like a real mother and daughter. Li-Li's husband was very happy to see what was happening.
One day, Li-Li came to see Mr. Huang and asked for his help again. She said, "Dear Mr. Huang, please help me to keep the poison from killing my mother-in-law! She's changed into such a nice woman, and I love her like my own mother. I do not want her to die because of the poison I gave her."
Mr. Huang smiled and nodded his head. "Li-Li, there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind and your attitude toward her, but that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.
There fore, attitude plays an important role in managing life..
. ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING....SET YOURSELF AS A GOOD EXAMPLE TO ALL OF YOUR CHILDREN....
1 LOVE MY MUM IN LAW LIKE MY OWN MUM......
MaMaZuE
d story has a good moral behind it..so just take that attitude is really playing a vital role in life...have a good one & be one....
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