The story touches my heart deeply and tenderly....

a very interesting and touching story.....

please read it till the end and extract some morals out of it....

Someone sent me this article, something that makes you think of the things that we take for granted

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After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the
demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call
or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the doo! r with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, "she said, as she got into the car."They can't wait to hear about our meeting". We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that! we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later! , she sa id, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did not get to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU !" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.

 "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!"

Cheers!

Rahsia Air Mata Wanita

""Suatu ketika, seorang anak bertanya kepada ibunya, “Ibu, mengapa ibu menangis?” Ibunya menjawab, “Sebab ibu adalah perempuan, nak.” “Saya tak mengerti ibu,” kata si anak. Ibunya hanya tersenyum dan memeluknya erat. “Nak, kau memang tak akan mengerti…”

Kemudian si anak bertanya kepada ayahnya. “Ayah, mengapa ibu menangis?” “Ibumu menangis tanpa sebab yang jelas.” sang ayah menjawab. “Semua perempuan memang sering menangis tanpa alasan.”

Si anak membesar menjadi remaja, dan dia tetap terus bertanya-tanya, mengapa perempuan menangis? Hingga pada suatu malam, ia bermimpi dan bertanya kepada Tuhan, “Ya Allah, mengapa perempuan mudah menangis?” Dalam mimpinya ia merasa seolah mendengar jawapannya:

“Saat Ku ciptakan wanita, saya membuatnya menjadi sangat utama. Kuciptakan bahunya, agar mampu menahan seluruh beban dunia dan isinya, walaupun juga bahu itu harus cukup nyaman dan lembut untuk menahan kepala bayi yang sedang tertidur.

“Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk dapat melahirkan bayi dari rahimnya, walau kerap berulangkali menerima cerca dari si bayi itu apabila ia telah membesar.

“Kuberikan keperkasaan yang akan membuatnya tetap bertahan, pantang menyerah saat semua orang sudah putus asa.

“Ku berikan kesabaran jiwa untuk merawat keluarganya walau dia sendiri letih, walau sakit, walau penat, tanpa berkeluh kesah.

“Kuberikan wanita perasaan peka dan kasih sayang untuk mencintai semua anaknya dalam kondisi dan situasi apapun. Walau acapkali anak-anaknya itu melukai perasaan dan hatinya. Perasaan ini pula yang akan memberikan kehangatan pada anak-anak yang mengantuk menahan lelap. Sentuhan inilah yang akan memberikan kenyamanan saat didekap dengan lembut olehnya.

“Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk membimbing suaminya melalui masa-masa sulit dan menjadi pelindung baginya. Sebab bukannya tulang rusuk yang melindungi setiap hati dan jantung agar tak terkoyak.

“Kuberikan kepadanya kebijaksanaan dan kemampuan untuk memberikan pengertian dan menyedarkan bahwa suami yang baik adalah yang tak pernah melukai isterinya. Walau seringkali pula kebijaksanaan itu akan menguji setiap kesetiaan yang diberikan kepada suami agar tetap berdiri sejajar, saling melengkapi dan saling menyayangi.

“Dan akhirnya, Kuberikan ia air mata, agar dapat mencurahkan perasaannya. Inilah yang khusus kepada wanita, agar dapat ia gunakan bila masa pun ia inginkan. Ini bukan kelemahan bagi wanita, kerana sebenarnya air mata ini adalah “air mata kehidupan.”
"

Aku juga akan menangis kehibaan bila mengenangkan peristiwa-peristiwa pahit yang telah berlaku....menangis mengingati hal-hal peribadi yang telah mengecewakan hati dan jiwa....menangis ketika membesarkan kesemua anak-anakku....menangis akan trajedi-trajedi yang telah melukakan perasaan aku selama ini....

sekarang, aku akan menangis di hadapan Mu, Ya Allah, memohon keredhaan, keampunan, keberkatan dan kerahmatan dalam menjalani ranjau-ranjau berduri perjalanan kehidupan ini....tangisan ku adalah seumpama rayuan kepada Mu, agar disinari hidup ini dengan penuh cahaya yang gilang gemilang....semoga di beri kekuatan, ketabahan, keyakinan ,kesabaran dan keimanan agar tidak mudah jatuh dan mudah kalah dalam mengatasi masalah-masalah yang dihadapi .....

How many tears have been shed,
because of few words said,
by voices low and deep,

how many more must weep,
withhold them, they cannot keep,
down faces very pale,

through grief; the silent wail,
battling emotions, they fail,
yet inside they harden,

though they beg for pardon,
hearts locked up by wardens,
who really has the key?

A lioness all will see,
selflessly, protects her family,
yet inside a mouse,

rocking numbly in her house,
always pining for her spouse,
those escaping little tears,

exposing all her fears,
subjecting her to jeers,
but her soul's strong,

though they do her wrong,
she'll bite her willing tongue,
bottled in her head.

Many more tears shed,
ringing her eyes with dread,
underneath they simmer,

resolving with a glimmer,
blurring smiles with a shimmer,
they fall without sound,

fresh throughout the rounds,
pacing the same ground,
so soft she was made,

but, she must stand brave,
his mercy does she crave,

Women's silent tears

"see u 2morro"

Good morning to all

Hi morning everyone....

wow, what a chilling sunday today...woke up very early to send the children to school and started blogging for a while coz gonna go to the market today to get some fresh food.....

It's a last sunday for the month and January is leaving us by tomorrow to welcome the new February.....MOnths passed by so swiftly and memories of yesteryears are still fresh in one's mind...

Some friends did ask me many times, "Hei, Kak Zu, u really have time now, facebooking, then now blogging.  We just could not find time for all that...we are very busy even at home...I'm quite proud of u!!!"...

well, is that a compliment or an insinuation (sindiran)? 

It could be both..i think lah...but to me, no matter how busy i am at home, i'll try to find a time (my own time) for all those things to be done...i could still read and write at the same time.... I like to browse the internets and look for nice articles to be shared with my friends...it could be poems, short stories, motivational articles and religious knowledgeable articles to suit my writing mood for the day...

I was really proud of myself, since i first wrote my articles and published in the notes at facebook walls, i received a number of friends' invitations...But i really thank God coz one of my writings had really transformed one person in her life....that is really a surprise to me....I told myself "Alhamdulillah...Well done, zue, you had done a charity in a way!"....

Really, I am very passionate about having what i learn in order to help others,,,The blog provides me a fantastic place for me to explore what I learn with a community that is also interested in learning....To me, life is a learning experience , the more i pay attention to it and use what i learn from my readings, the better my life becomes....

Since my younger days, i had been collecting wisdom words, quotations , sayings and motivational short stories from my friends via books and magazines...Those days, we didn't have computers nor internets...so reading was our only source.....so, now, i spread my wings and managed to get all those interesting articles thru the emails and internets....

Thru all these kind of hobbies, I don't grow old easily, i guess...my mind is always filled up with all the good things in life even though there are always hardships in leading the path...i overcome it by not thinking about the problems faced because i know that worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles, it takes away today's peace...

So, i  decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances.....

Finally, do always remember that you are today where your thoughts have brought you, you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.....

mama zue

Renungkan dan selamat beramal

Bila kita memulakan sesuatu...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa letakkan niat

Kadang-kadang kita lupa letakkan usaha,

Kadang-kadang kita tunggu disergah baru hendak mengolah,

Sebab tu bila kerja tak menjadi,

Kita mula angkat kaki...

Bila kita berusaha...Kadang-kadang lupa pula hendak berdoa,

Siang malam kerah tenaga dan masa...

Sebab tu bila kerja masih tak sempurna,

Kita mudah putus asa...


Bila kita berniat, berusaha dan berdoa...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa pula untuk bertawakkal pada Yang Esa.

Bertawakal pun pada bicara tapi di hati masih buta.

Sebab tu bila dilanda masalah,

Kita marah tak tentu hala...



Bila kita berniat, berusaha, berdoa dan bertawakal...

Kadang-kadang kita tetap alpa,

Nak sebut Alhamdulillah pun payah,

Berdoa pun sekali sekala,

Bersyukur sekejap cuma..



Sebab tu bila kita berjaya,

Allah datangkan ujian dan musibah...

Supaya kita ingat dan kembali ke jalan redha,

Tetapi kita kecewa sampai mencari jalan mudah..

Membenci diri memusuhi nadi.



Sedangkan...

Kita manusia ciptaan Allah,

Allah takkan lupa pada langkah kita.

Tapi sememangnya lahiriah kita,

Kadang-kadang lebih suka dipuji,

Sebab itu kita jarang memuji Yang Maha Terpuji,

Kadang-kadang lebih suka dicintai,

Sebab itu kita lupa menyintai Yang Maha Menyintai,

Kadang-kadang kita lebih suka menyendiri,

Tapi lupa Allah sedang memerhati...


Sebab itu teruskanlah bermuhasabah pada pencipta,

Kerana dalam firman Allah;

Bernafas di udara yang sama,

Bila lemah Allah itu ada,

Bila derita Allah itu bersama,

Senang, susah, sedih, gembira...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa baca Bismillah

Sebab tu bila ada masalah, Kita cepat menyerah...


Bila kita berniat...

 

Kerana itu..

Pada masalah harus bersabar dan redha

Pada ujian harus tabah dan teguh.

Pada kegagalan harus usaha, doa dan tawakkal

Sama tetapi tidak serupa,

Kerana kejayaan di dunia bukan pengukur kejayaan di sana

Kekayaan harta di dunia bukan jaminan kebahagiaan di sana

Kesusahan dan penderitaan di dunia belum tentu bersambung di sana

Kealpaan kita di dunia pasti menjadi kesakitan kita di sana...


Di sana itulah yang perlu kita kejar,

Agar dunia mengikuti dengan redha...



Di sana,

Akhirat yang pasti...

Syurga yang terindah,

Atau

Neraka yang menyala!
 

"Bagi tiap-tiap seorang ada malaikat penjaganya silih berganti dari hadapannya dan dari belakangnya, yang mengawas dan menjaganya (dari sesuatu bahaya) dengan perintah Allah. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak mengubah apa yang ada pada sesuatu kaum sehingga mereka mengubah apa yang ada pada diri mereka sendiri. Dan apabila Allah menghendaki untuk menimpakan kepada sesuatu kaum bala bencana (disebabkan kesalahan mereka sendiri), maka tiada sesiapapun yang dapat menolak atau menahan apa yang ditetapkanNya itu, dan tidak ada sesiapapun yang dapat menolong dan melindungi mereka selain daripadaNya. (Ar-Ra'd:11)"
 


Renung –renungkan & selamat beramal…..

 

Boring Saturday......

Oh my God, this saturday is such a boring one....
woke up late then rushed to the market and nothing much left... so bought chicken, rebung and other vegetables....

before cooking, accompanied nasrul to the Centre Point to buy his neccesities for his enrolment in the Science School next week.....RM500 gone...ha ha ha...

came back from Centre Point, prepared lunch...simple lunch...rebung masak lemak & fried chicken...that's about all....

played carom with Along for a while and had a short nap .....did some reading then started blogging again....writing is my passion so i sit down and tried to write whatever in mind....

unexpected weather for the day, sometimes it rains, then stop and started to rain again....the wind blew so hard....banging all the doors and windows at home...but the weather was actually nice and cooling....

quite lazy to cook anything for tea...so just had hot milo and biscuits....actually, lazing around is the best thing to do now.......

Very touching Mother facts !

 When you came into the world, she held you in her arms.

 You thanked her by wailing like a banshee.

 When you were 1 year old, she fed you and bathed you.

 You thanked her by crying all night long.

 When you were 2 years old, she taught you to walk.

 You thanked her by running away when she called.

 When you were 3 years old, she made all your meals with love.

 You thanked her by tossing your plate on the floor.

 When you were 4 years old, she gave you some crayons.

 You thanked her by coloring the dining room table.

 When you were 5 years old, she dressed you for the holidays.

 You thanked her by plopping into the nearest pile of mud.

 When you were 6 years old, she walked you to school.

 You thanked her by screaming, "I'M NOT GOING!"

 When you were 7 years old, she bought you a baseball.

 You thanked her by throwing it through the

 next-door-neighbor's window.

 When you were 8 years old, she handed you an ice cream.

 You thanked her by dripping it all over your lap.

 When you were 9 years old, she paid for piano lessons.

 You thanked her by never even bothering to practice.

 When you were 10 years old, she drove you all day, from

 soccer to gymnastics to one birthday party after another.

 You thanked her by jumping out of the car and never looking back.

 When you were 11 years old, she took you and your friends to the movies.

 You thanked her by asking to sit in a different row.

 When you were 12 years old, she warned you not to watch certain TV shows.

 You thanked her by waiting until she left the house.

 Those teenage years

 When you were 13, she suggested a haircut that was becoming.

 You thanked her by telling her she had no taste.

 When you were 14, she paid for a month away at summer camp.

 You thanked her by forgetting to write a single letter.

 When you were 15, she came home from work, looking for a hug.

 You thanked her by having your bedroom door locked.

 When you were 16, she taught you how to driver her car.

 You thanked her by taking it every chance you could.

 When you were 17, she was expecting an important call.

 You thanked her by being on the phone all night.

 When you were 18, she cried at your high school graduation.

 You thanked her by staying out partying until dawn.

 Growing old and gray

 When you were 19, she paid for your college tuition,

 drove you to campus, carried your bags.

 You thanked her by saying good-bye outside the dorm so you wouldn't

 be embarrassed in front of your friends.

 When you were 20, she asked whether you were seeing anyone.

 You thanked her by saying, "It's none of your business."

 When you were 21, she suggested certain careers for your future.

 You thanked her by saying, "I don't want to be like you."

 When you were 22, she hugged you at your college graduation.

 You thanked her by asking whether she could pay for a trip to Europe.

 When you were 23, she gave you furniture for your first apartment.

 You thanked her by telling your friends it was ugly.

 When you were 24, she met your fiance and asked about your plans for the future.

 You thanked her by glaring and growling, "Muuhh-ther, please!"

 When you were 25, she helped to pay for your wedding, and she cried and told

 you how deeply she loved you.

 You thanked her by moving halfway across the country.

 When you were 30, she called with some advice on the baby.

 You thanked her by telling her, "Things are different now."

 When you were 40, she called to remind you of an relative's birthday.

 You thanked her by saying you were "really busy right now."

 When you were 50, she fell ill and needed you to take care of her.

 You thanked her by reading about the burden parents become to their children.

 And then, one day, she quietly died. And everything you never did came

 crashing down like thunder.

 "Rock me baby, rock me all night long."

 "The hand who rocks the cradle...may rock the world".

 Let us take a moment of the time just to pay tribute/show appreciation to

 the person called MOM though some may not say it openly to their mother.

 There's no substitute for her. Cherished every single moment.

 Though at times she may not be the best of friends, may not agree to our

 thoughts, she is still your mother!!!

 She will be there for you...to listen to your woes, your braggings, your

 frustations, etc.

 Ask yourself.....have you put aside enough time for her, to listen to her

 "blues" of working in the kitchen, her tiredness???

 Be tactful, loving and still show her due respect though you may have a

 different view from hers.

 Once gone, only fond memories of the past and also regrets will be left.

 **DON'T TAKE FOR GRANTED THE THINGS CLOSEST TO YOUR HEART. CLING TO THEM AS

 U WOULD YOUR LIFE, FOR WITHOUT THEM, LIFE IS MEANINGLESS*

Semoga roh mak (arwah ibu and arwah mak) dicucuri rahmat dan diletakkan di tempat-tempat orang-orang yang beriman

Amin.....Ya rabbal 'alamin....

If you have time, read this.....

Salam ceria hari Sabtu.....and a good saturday morning to all friends and families.....

"Pada zaman internet ini manusia sentiasa rasa hebat, masyhur, kaya, tidak memerlukan teguran dan diri menjadi sombong. Lantaran itu manusia tidak lagi mahu mengikut kehendak agamanya yang suci ini. Masing-masing berasakan dirinya sudah hebat dengan mengikut gelagat bintang-bintang filem, penyanyi-penyanyi dan segala jenis seniman yang memporak-perandakan iman umat Islam zaman ini. Antara bentuk-bentuk ikutan yang difikirkan negatif oleh pandangan kita dan agama juga ialah seperti:

Mewarnakan rambut yang hitam dengan warna seperti bulu tupai yang keperang-perangan.

Memotong rambut ala bintang filem Barat, berekor dan jijik dipandang

Memakai subang sebelah seperti anak haram negro

Menyimpan kuku panjang dan mewarnakannya seperti bintang filem makyung Cina

Memakai baju tidak berlengan yang mendedahkan panau dan kurap di tangan.

Memakai seluar yang koyak di lutut untuk menonjolkan kemiskinannya.

Mentatoo lengan seperti orang Siam supaya air sembahyang tidak rata dan sentiasa berkeadaan tidak suci.

Memakai baju yang bercorak lukisan muka hantu dan iblis yang menjijikkan untuk menunjukkan diri sudah menjadi rakan iblis tersebut.

Berkepit dengan pasangan yang bukan muhrim di komplek membeli belah untuk menunjukkan kehebatan diri yang dijadikan Tuhan.

Mengusung anak dara orang dengan motosikal besar ke sana kemari untuk dibuat tontonan.

Ibu bapa membiarkan anak perempuan yang telah baligh tidak menutup aurat dan termasuk membogelkan kepala tanpa bertudung semasa keluar dari rumah .

Ibubapa boleh berkongsi menonton drama tv adegan ciuman dan percintaan serta hubungan jenis tanpa rasa segan silu .

WAHAI INSAN,

WAHAI KHALIFAH ALLAH DI MUKA BUMI INI, INGATLAH ALLAH TIDAK MENGURNIAKAN ANAK-ANAK DAN ISTERI UNTUK DIBANGGA-BANGGAKAN. AMANAH SEBAGAI KHALIFAH ALLAH DI BUMI ADALAH SUATU AMANAH YANG AMAT BERAT UNTUK DIPIKUL, SEHINGGAKAN GUNUNG-GANANG TAKUT MENERIMA AMANAH ALLAH TERSEBUT.

Oleh itu wahai manusia yang bergelar suami dan bapa, peliharalah anak-anak dan isteri dengan mengikut kehendak agama yang telah ditunjukkan oleh Rasulullah s.a.w sejak dahulu lagi.

Segala yang baik datangnya dari Allah Azza Wa Jalla, segala yang kurang baik adalah dari kelemahan diri saya sendiri......

Wassalam......