Before I was a mom....now that i'm a mom of 5 sons...

Before I was a Mom,
I never tripped over toys
or forgot words to a lullaby. I didn't worry whether or not
my plants were poisonous. I never thought about immunizations.

Before I was a Mom,
I had never been puked on. Pooped on. Chewed on. Peed on. I had complete control of my mind
and my thoughts. I slept all night.

Before I was a Mom,
I never held down a screaming child
so doctors could do tests. Or give shots. I never looked into teary eyes and cried. I never got gloriously happy over a simple grin. I never sat up late hours at night
watching a baby sleep.
Before I was a Mom,
I never held a sleeping baby just because I didn't want to put her down.

I never felt my heart break into a million pieces when I couldn't stop
the hurt. I never knew that something so small
could affect my life so much. I never knew that I could love someone so much. I never knew I would love being a Mom.

Before I was a Mom,
I didn't know the feeling of
having my heart outside my body.. I didn't know how special it could feel to feed a hungry baby. I didn't know that bond
between a mother and her child. I didn't know that something so small
could make me feel so important and happy.

Before I was a Mom,
I had never gotten up in the middle of the night every 10 minutes to
make sure all was okay. I had never known the warmth,
the joy,
the love,
the heartache,
the wonderment
or the satisfaction of being a Mom. I didn't know I was capable of feeling so much, before I was a Mom

Now, that I’m already a mom,
I had gone thru all the miseries day &  nite
To make them grow & grow….

Now that I’m already a mom,
Of five great sons…
I am really proud to be their mom,
Although I had ran into all the troubles
Of waking up at late nites,
Of yelling at them when they were fighting,
Of scolding them to do their homeworks,
Of getting heartaches when they were so naughty
Of smacking them when they were too stubborn,

Now that I’m already a mom,
I realized that all my hardship
Had been partly repaid at the moment..

Now, that I’m already a mom,
I can feel their love for me,
I can feel their respect to me,
I can feel their care for me,
I can feel their touch for me.

Now, that I’m already mom,
I know that my love for my children is a never ending love…
It is a life time love,
It is a never failing love,
But I do understand that one day,
That one fine day and  the day will come,
That I have to let you go,
Maybe that is the hardest thing of all but I just have to set my children  free…

Now, that l’m already a mom,
I thanked Allah for giving me the strength & courage
to look after all my children up to this stage of life
with full of sacrifices, laughter,tears and love…
with full of troubles, obstacles, roadblocks and miseries…
but I think I’m halfway thru it….
although in the simplest way of life…..

ALHAMDULILLAH…..

Refresh Hati....May the awareness lasts forever...

Bila kita memulakan sesuatu...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa letakkan niat

Kadang-kadang kita lupa baca Bismillah

Sebab tu bila ada masalah, Kita cepat menyerah...


Bila kita berniat...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa letakkan usaha,

Kadang-kadang kita tunggu disergah baru hendak mengolah,

Sebab tu bila kerja tak menjadi,

Kita mula angkat kaki...


Bila kita berusaha...Kadang-kadang lupa pula hendak berdoa,

Siang malam kerah tenaga dan masa...

Sebab tu bila kerja masih tak sempurna,

Kita mudah putus asa...


Bila kita berniat, berusaha dan berdoa...

Kadang-kadang kita lupa pula untuk bertawakkal pada Yang Esa.

Bertawakal pun pada bicara tapi di hati masih buta.

Sebab tu bila dilanda masalah,

Kita marah tak tentu hala...


Bila kita berniat, berusaha, berdoa dan bertawakal...

Kadang-kadang kita tetap alpa,

Nak sebut Alhamdulillah pun payah,

Berdoa pun sekali sekala,

Bersyukur sekejap cuma..


Sebab tu bila kita berjaya,

Allah datangkan ujian dan musibah...

Supaya kita ingat dan kembali ke jalan redha,

Tetapi kita kecewa sampai mencari jalan mudah..

Membenci diri memusuhi nadi.


Sedangkan...

Kita manusia ciptaan Allah,

Bernafas di udara yang sama,

Bila lemah Allah itu ada,

Bila derita Allah itu bersama,

Senang, susah, sedih, gembira...

Allah takkan lupa pada langkah kita.


Tapi sememangnya lahiriah kita,

Kadang-kadang lebih suka dipuji,

Sebab itu kita jarang memuji Yang Maha Terpuji,

Kadang-kadang lebih suka dicintai,

Sebab itu kita lupa menyintai Yang Maha Menyintai,

Kadang-kadang kita lebih suka menyendiri,

Tapi lupa Allah sedang memerhati...


Sebab itu teruskanlah bermuhasabah pada pencipta,

Kerana dalam firman Allah;

"Bagi tiap-tiap seorang ada malaikat penjaganya silih berganti dari hadapannya dan dari belakangnya, yang mengawas dan menjaganya (dari sesuatu bahaya) dengan perintah Allah. Sesungguhnya Allah tidak mengubah apa yang ada pada sesuatu kaum sehingga mereka mengubah apa yang ada pada diri mereka sendiri. Dan apabila Allah menghendaki untuk menimpakan kepada sesuatu kaum bala bencana (disebabkan kesalahan mereka sendiri), maka tiada sesiapapun yang dapat menolak atau menahan apa yang ditetapkanNya itu, dan tidak ada sesiapapun yang dapat menolong dan melindungi mereka selain daripadaNya. (Ar-Ra'd:11)"

Kerana itu..Pada masalah harus bersabar dan redha

Pada ujian harus tabah dan teguh.

Pada kegagalan harus usaha, doa dan tawakkal

Pada kejayaan harus usaha, doa dan tawakkal..


Sama tetapi tidak serupa,

Kerana kejayaan di dunia bukan pengukur kejayaan di sana

Kekayaan harta di dunia bukan jaminan kebahagiaan di sana

Kesusahan dan penderitaan di dunia belum tentu bersambung di sana

Kealpaan kita di dunia pasti menjadi kesakitan kita di sana...


Di sana itulah yang perlu kita kejar,

Agar dunia mengikuti dengan redha...


Di sana,

Akhirat yang pasti...

Syurga yang terindah,

Atau

Neraka yang menyala!



Renung –renungkan & selamat beramal…..

Stress free tips for Mums.....

MUMS are some of the busiest people on the planet. From working a nine-to-five job to getting the kids off the school or from attending soccer games to chaperoning a slumber party, a mum's feet never seem to stay still. Some mums are responsible for taking care of their ageing parents as well. ( I had this experience before but was very lucky coz i have a very good maid to assist me.........missed those days...missed my old parents)


With this almost frantic pace, increased stress can impact many areas of life such as work, family and other relationships. Stress can cause on to experience irritability, impatience and distractibility. For busy mums, stress management is a necessity. Here are tips to assist in living a more stress-free life.

:-)         Determine, no matter what, to create time for self. For some busy mums, maybe it's a soothing bubble bath at the end of the day. For others, it could be a quick trip to the local spa for facial or body massage. The activity really really doesn't matter as long as busy mums take some time for themselves.

:-)     Listen to calm, soothing music on the way to work, while at work, and while going to sleep. Music has a way of calming and soothing the mind and the body.

:-)     Practice deep abdomical breathing periodically throughout the day. Breath in deeply through the nose  pulling the belly button towards the spine, hold for a few seconds, and then slowly release. Busy mums will be pleasantly surprised at how this simple technique can result in a more relaxed body and mind. This can be done in any environment.

:-)     Take time to exercise. Exercise helps to increase self-esteem, decrease depression, increase concentration and energy, and gives one a greater sense of control over stress. Hitting the local gym is not always necessary. Taking a 15-minute walk around the neighbourhood, taking walks on lunch breaks, taking the steps instead of an elevator and parking farther away when shopping are examples of how busy mums can squeeze in exercise during the day.

:-)     Eat healthy. There are foods that promote calmness and foods that increased stress levels. Busy mums can ask themselves if they are eating too much sugar and caffeine, and if they are getting enough protein. They can also evaluate if they eating plenty of fresh fruit and vegetables and staying away from refined and processed foods. Healthy eating is very important for any busy mum. Taking a look at diets and making the necessary changes can result in increased optimal health.

:-)     Call a friend. For any busy mum, it is always important in life to have at least one relationship where they can just vent and know that a listening ear and unconditional acceptance will be given. Friend who really cares...

:-)     Practice thinking calmly. Everyone has a favourite place that is peaceful, soothing and calm. When stress levels increase, busy mums can take a mental break and visualise that special place. They can take note of the sights, sounds and smells. It is important to continue to do this until relaxation is felt. Busy mums will notice that the stress they are experiencing will be less and more manageable.

:-)     Have a sense of humour. We all are familiar with the saying, "laughter is the best medicine". This is so true. Be willing to laugh at personal mistakes. Tach a funny movie. Share a joke with a friend. In other words, lighten up. It will make such a difference.

:-)    Have a window shopping around..not to spend but to envy or to admire d goodies.....you can do it on yr own if u feel at ease or with a chatting friend...

"THE BUSIER WE ARE, THE MORE ACUTELY WE FEEL THAT WE LIVE."

Live life the fullest..do not live life sad....so as to make us feel d best in everything we do..cherish our time by doing special things for ourself..we need it..if not we'll grow old faster & wasted our life for being too busy to make it thru the years...By the end of the day, all the miseries and pain will come to us....
Remember the saying: Dream about what please u
                                     Go where u want 2 go
                                     Be who u want 2 be
                                     u only have ONE life
                                     to do what makes u happy.........

Last but not least, Always be thankful to the Creator....InsyaAllah...no matter how busy u r mum, u can be happy in your life coz you enjoyed yr life very much....I am happy for myself eventho i had wasted 2hrs each day for 5 days on d road travelling up & down to work....work was always very hectic but i still have my happy time everiday..sometimes, i had all forgotten abt being lethargic driving to & fro...Thank God for giving me the full strength in doing my chaos...Thank God for having a good & loyal maid to handle my house for 9 solid years now..Thank God for giving me all the opportunities for improvement...Thank God for my understanding & well-behaved children (InsyaAllah)..Thank God for everything ........................:)

Sweet dreams & may u dream of all the goodies.....

Dedicated to all my family and friends....

Family & Friends




We all have a cherished garden we tend -
It is planted with love of family and friends.
The memories and dreams we treasure and share
Are like beautiful roses found blooming there.
The comfort and care on which we depend
Is given with love between family and friends.
The sunshine of laughter and rain of a tear
Only make our love grow with each passing year.
We may all be ourselves with no need to pretend
Because of the love of family and friends;
They notice the rainbows and weather the showers.
They overlook weeds and praise all our flowers.
The most valuable thing is the time that we spend
Tending this garden with family and friends.
When counting our blessings, we know from the start
That family and friends come first in our heart.



Whenever we gather together,
The words are not easy to find,
But love speaks a common language
When people have ties that bind.
We don't always say what we're feeling
As often as families should;
We don't count our blessings out loud,
But somehow they're understood.
We know that we're thankful for living
With the comfort of each other's care;
We're grateful for memories and stories,
And the jokes that our family shares.
We might leave a promise unspoken,
But we know that we're loyal and true;
We can count on companions through life,
In the sunshine and shadows, too.
We might show some special attention
To a stranger, acquaintance, or guest,
But we never forget in our hearts
About those that we really love best.
These blessings can never be counted
Like money or gold dividends;
They can only be shared as the love
That exists when families are friends.


***
this poem is specially dedicated to all who knows me personally...

"Life is a gift to you..The way you live your life is your gift to thos who came after...make it a fantastic one eventho you have to go thru all the roadblocks and obstacles to reach your destiny of living happilly...together with family and friends....as the road to success is always under construction....anyway...life is a learning experience ..The more I pay attention to and use what i learn, the better my life becomes...

I LOVE MY FAMILY.....L LOVE MY FRIENDS....

"semua yang baik datangnya dari Allah Azza Wa Jalla, segala yang kurang baik adalah dari kelemahan diri sendiri"

Recipe for Self-Love

Take full responsibility for your life.
Stop blaming others.
See yourself as the cause of what happens to you.
Do things you like to do.
Don't stay in a job you don't like.
Participate in life at the highest level you can.
Stop terrorising yourself with your thoughts.
Be gentle and kind and patient with yourself.
Give yourself the simple pleasures of life abundantly.
Wear clothes you feel good in, get a massage etc.
Watch what you say. Avoid self put-downs.
Stop being critical of yourself and others.
Take care of your body.
Give it exercise and good food.
Be willing to create a life-style that generates and nourishes self-esteem.
Associate with others with high esteem.
Acknowledge yourself frequently.
Keep a diary of your successes and accomplishments.
Avoid comparing yourself with others.
Remember that it's who we are, not what we do, that's important
Give yourself permission to do nothing periodically.
Schedule time by yourself.
Frequently take deep breaths.
Discover the benefit and pleasure of breathing fully.
Eat first class frequently.
Don't look at the right side of the menu.
Stop trying to change others.
Focus your attention on being the way you want others to be.
Look into a mirror regularly
and say "I love you, I really love you".
Stop feeling guilty and saying "I'm sorry".
See mistakes as valuable lessons and avoid judging yourself.
Consciously generate positive thoughts and feelings of self-love
in place of old thoughts of inadequacy.
Be willing to laugh at yourself and at life.
Stop taking yourself so seriously.
Accept compliments from others without embarrassment.
Don't invalidate their positive thoughts and feelings about you.
Be kind to your mind.
Don't hate yourself for having negative thoughts.
Gently change your thoughts.
Keep your awareness and your thoughts focussed in present time
instead of living in the past or future.
Acknowledge others frequently.
Tell them what you like and appreciate in them.
Invest money in yourself.
Go to seminars, workshops and courses that develop your talents.
Make a list of 10 things
you love doing and do them frequently.
Treat yourself as you would treat someone you really loved.
Praise yourself.
P/s: Always remember to love yourself first before loving others....Do what you think is right and always look forward not backward....Never mind if u fail in something as the saying goes " The men who try to do something and fail are infinitely better than those who try to do nothing but succeed".....


Never listen to other people's tendencies to be negative or pessimistic because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you....the ones you have in your heart...Always think positive and above all, be DEAF when people tell you that you cannot fulfill your dreams.....

Always think : God, I can do this.....

" Tips To Wake Up For Fajr "

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmath UllAhi Wabarkatahu

" Tips To Wake Up For Fajr "

 

1 - Go To Sleep With Wuduk.Perform Two Rakahs Solat And Ask Allah For Hidayah And Guidance.

2 - Recite At Least 10 Ayat Of The Holy Quran, Because Rasulullah Said To Recite Atleast 10 Ayat Of The Quran So You Don't Get Counted Amongst The Neglectful And Be in The State Of "ghaflah" (neglect).

3 - Catch The Jemaah in The Masjid.Invite Others To Also Catch it.Rasulullah Says, Who Ever Performs Salatul Isha With Jamat And Performs Salatul Fajr With Jamat will Get The Ajar And Thawab (reward) For Doing Worship All Night.

4- Make Sincere Dua To Allah Talah To Give You The Ability To Wake Up.Make Big intentions. Not Just "oh Allah Please Give Me The Ability To Wake Up For Fajr." Instead make intention for Tahajjud and/or catching Takbirullah in the Masjid.

5 - Do The Tasbeeh Of Fatimah Before Going To Sleep.

Subhanallah 33x, Alhamdulillah 33x & Allahu Akbar 33x. It Comes in The Narration That By Doing This Tiredness Will Be Removed After Waking Up.

6- Go To Sleep Early Without Wasting Time And indulging in Frivolous Activities.It is Best To Go To Sleep immediately After Isha. Best Way To Feel Tired And Push One Self To Go To Sleep Early is When You Do Wake Up For Fajr, Stay Up And Not Go To Sleep Afterwards. By Doing This You Will Notice That By The Time You Hit Nightfall You Will Feel Tired And Automatically Fall Asleep.

7- Avoid Using The Shaytaan Button

(the snooze button). The Only Thing This Does is Make You Miss The Time Of Fajr.

7 - Keep The Alarm Clock Away From Easy Reach. By Doing This, You Will Have To Get Out Of Bed.

8 - Don't Eat Late. Try To Eat At Least 2 Hours Before Going To Sleep. If You Eat And Go Straight To Sleep, You Will Feel Tired When Waking Up.

9 - Create A Cycle Of Calling And Ringing One Another. By This if Someone Does Wake Up And Perform Salatul Fajr, We Will Get The Ajar And Thawab (reward), Subhanallah!!!

10 - A Really Effective "wakerupper" is Doing Some Quick Pushups And Sittups. This Gets The Body immediately Rejuvenated.

11 - Ask Someone To Come And Wake You Up. For Example: Wife, Mother, Daughter, Husband, Etc.

12 - As Soon As You Wake Up, Rub Your Face With Your Hands. By Doing This, Sleep Will Ward Off. It is Sunnah To Do This And Recite Verses 190 - 194 From Surah Al-Imraan.

13 - Fight The "Nafsu"And Get Up. "Nafsu"  Will Say " Few More Minutes." Those Few More Minutes Will Lead You To Miss Salah Completely.

14 - If The Above Tips Are Not Working, Make Your Bed Less Comfortable Atleast For Few Days..

Well, everyone...let us practice this routinely....do it every nite before we close our eyes and go our dreamland....

This is such a very good advice to each and everyone of us as almost all of us seems to be  very lazy during waking up time...our day should be started from dawn which is when we suppose to conduct our "Subuh Prayers" and try not to resleep as we wake up...

get ready for the new day with a new spirit and a new self....

a fresh new morning ...

with a fresh new self....

new inspiration...

new resolution...........

InsyaAllah......

Happiness is a voyage, not a destination....

 Happiness is a voyage, not a destination

This story is about a beautiful, expensively dressed lady who complained

to her psychiatrist that she felt that her whole life was empty, it had no meaning.

So, the lady went to visit a counselor to seek out happiness.
The counselor called over the old lady who cleaned the office floors.
The counselor then said to the rich lady"I'm going to ask Mary here
to tell you how she found happiness. All I want you to do is listen to her."

So the old lady put down her broom and sat on a chair and told her story:
"Well, my husband died of malaria and three months later
my only son was killed by a car.

I had nobody... I had nothing left. I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat,
I never smiled at anyone, I even thought of taking my own life.

Then one evening a little kitten followed me home from work.
Somehow I felt sorry for that kitten. It was cold outside, so I decided
to let the kitten in. I got it some milk, and the kitten licked the plate clean.

Then it purred and rubbed against my leg and for the first time in months,
I smiled.

Then I stopped to think, if helping a little kitten could make me smile,
maybe doing something for people could make me happy.
So the next day I baked some biscuits and took them to a neighbor
who was sick in bed.

Every day I tried to do something nice for someone.
It made me so happy to see them happy. 

Today, I don't know of anybody who sleeps and eats
better than I do.

I've found happiness, by giving it to others."

When she heard that the rich lady cried.
She had everything that money could buy, but
she had lost the things which money cannot buy.

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn or consumed. 

Happiness is the spiritual experience of living 

every minute with love, grace and gratitude.