True real friends double your happiness and half your burden.........

hAi...everyone....

It's nice to have a true friend beside you but you of course have to learn how to be a true friend to others. Reciprocation is the key!

Please listen to the song below while reading the article......

True real friends double your happiness and half your burdens. Basically how you would like a true real friend to be, you should be like this to your true friends. Trust, forgiveness, accountability are some ingredients of a true friend. True friendships are hard to come by. And what's more, life is short. So treasure these friends if you have already have them. If you don't continue to search, because once you have them, life becomes so much easier to live, no matter what happens. I have been through pretty rough patches and I dare say, without my friends I would not have made it.

Friendships need lots of energy and patience to maintain them. Not to mention time too. When your friend needs you, sometimes when things are not going too well on your side, it is often so easy to turn a deaf ear to their pleas. It is especially during these times, that you must find the strength in you to help your friend. And it is during these times that your friendship will be forged and made stronger.

And you must always be happy for their successes, even when things are not going too well on your side. It might be hard to do for some people but it is something that you need to learn. Think about all the sacrifices your friend has made for you and all the times when he or she was happy for you despite his or her own troubles.

Think about all the happy times you all enjoyed and the sad, rough times you all went through together. That should give you sufficient patience to actually be a true friend for them. Remember, true friends are the next best thing to family. They will always be your pillar of support no matter what. Always.

Real friends are hard to find but i think i have a real true friend at this stage of life...eventhough there were many who had left me with sweet memories as they were all far apart living with their family and have alife of their own ...no matter what it is, they are still my true friends in school or at work...do cherished our moments together back then.....

A friend whom i mentioned above knows me and family well and so is her family.. we are more like a family as my children are like hers and her children are like my own....we shared many things together. We cried, we laughed, we travelled, we camped and we had the best memories ever together.....Deep down in my heart & soul , i just can't tell how I love her & family...She is like a shoulder to cry on....She's there for me everytime i was in trouble and same goes to me. with her...and reciprocation works in our relationship and friendship...give and take in maintaining the friendship for a very long time.....our friendship started around 1993 or 1994...May Allah strengthen our friendship  forever and ever....

Thank you dear friend for being my friend in my life.. a friend in need is a friend indeed!!!!

THAT'S FOR TONITE.....

mAmAzUe

Why Honesty is the BEST policy.....

Salam to all.....this topic is quite interesting....so much so, there are a number of liars surrounding us...we could name them as pretenders....pretend to be a good samaritan but vice versa....how's that????

"Just one, little white lie, that's all." How many times have we all said this in our head, and then later deeply regret it. The little white lie that you drop in the midst of a situation can turn into an enormous headache in a very short time. Lies must be maintained, and sometimes over long periods of time. They can come back to haunt us as well, in a single question that if we answer wrong turns the tables and shows clearly our deceit. Honesty, on the other hand, doesn't have to be maintained. It is not always pretty, or kind, but once said it is just what it is, the truth - nothing more, nothing less.

This is why honesty is truly the best policy. When you take responsibility for actions that you have committed, or give your account of a situation in an honestly reasonable manner, you not only gain respect but trust.. Trust is a key factor in our society today, and at times is hard to find. Truth is an essential in any career field: business, government, teaching, art, whatever you do, honesty can have a huge impact on your ability to make a living. Some people get by quickly and successfully telling a lie here or there, but just as quickly lose what they gained when the lie is exposed - as it almost always is.

Also, truth does not harm even if it may seem so when you tell it. In the long run, it benefits. Lies can cause pain, damage relationships of all types, and makes the person lying eventually feel guilt for what they have done. If you consider the people in your life that you most respect and would trust with your life, one of the first qualities about them that you can name is that they are honest.

When you earn something by honest work and actions it is so much more meaningful than when you achieve it dishonestly. Cheating on a test might garner you an "A" grade, but it is not a true reflection of yourself. When you have studied and worked hard, passing the same test with an "A" that you have truly earned, you have something to be proud of.

One thing to also consider about honesty is the little eyes that watch everyone taller than them each day in every action and word: our children. They absorb not only what we do, but how we do it. Children are remarkable at gauging when someone is lying to them or to another. They also copy what they see in someone they admire. If we model honesty, we will have an honest world. The other side of the coin is one of irresponsibility, and people growing up thinking that manipulating others is acceptable. Honesty also lets us know where we stand in relation to others. Instead of telling someone else what they want to know, simply be honest. This keeps resentment from boiling up inside that can later explode, causing damage to a once wonderful relationship.

Honesty does not have to be blunt and rude, either. There are tactful ways to tell someone how you feel, or to give advice. Constructive criticism is one of the most useful tools in learning, and when given tactfully and honestly, it can greatly benefit another to improve some aspect of him or herself.

In basic context, if you want to tell stories be a writer. Living an honest life to the best of your ability is one of the most honorable and kindest services that anyone can give to humanity. It helps us to keep avenues of communication open, an atmosphere of trust to pervade, and keeps people closer together in a more peaceful environment.

mAmAzUe

Thank you to all my teachers and my sons' teachers tooo.....

It's 16th May, 2011.....it's d nation's celebration for all teachers out there....

It's a day specially dedicated to all teachers..thank you so much to all my teachers who were in Convent , Muar from 1969 - 1979.....(my year one to Form Five)....I had my best education there and really had wonderful time with all the wonderful teachers then....so caring and loving...we were just like friends....My principal  during my primary years, late Mrs Danker my principal  during my secondary years , late Sister Marie Theresa were like a mother to all of us.  They treated us like their own children even though we are of different races and religion...I really felt honoured and is really thankful to all of them who had been my teacher during my school life..

I had then moved to Sultan Abu Bakar Girl's School for my Form Six but I left school before my i finished my upper Six and joined the Courts to be a Court Interpreter....My late father had wanted me to be a teacher once coz a friend of him could get me thru but I declined because I hate teaching at that time....ha ha ha.....but i'd always been a teacher to my sons till today...as i spent half of my time at home teaching, guiding, assisting and monitoring them almost every nite from 8 - 10 pm..except during the weekends....i had sacrificed my time of watching TV but sat with them in the study room, checked their homeworks or gave them my own work...a teacher too only not by proffession....I was really strict then that they were so scared of me then....

That was my efforts for all my sons...Thank God, they are what they are now...Parents should not left everything to the school teachers to guide their children...we, as parents esp mothers should helped in guiding our own children....teachers won't have enough time to do everything for our kids...so, let's help the teachers for the sake of our children....

Here, I would like to thank all the teachers and lectures in Tadika Seri Budi Kemaman, Sek Kebangsaan Sultan Ismail, Chukai, Kemaman, Sek Menengah Sultan Ismail II, Kemaman, MRSM Besut, MRSM Kuala Lipis, Sek. Men Sains, Muar, UITM Shah Alam, UITM Kuantan and UNISZA....and also to our private tutors, Mrs Yong and Mr Chia who had done their very best to lead my sons to the right path.....Eventhough, I had not seen the REAL RESULT yet but i could forecast what is their future by now....

Before I pen off, I would like to post a question....Have you ever wondered what the qualities of a really professional teacher are? I know that all teachers want their students to like them, but being liked isn't the be-all and end-all really, is it? I mean teachers have to make some unpopular decisions sometimes.

Teachers can be popular just because they are friendly and helpful, but to be truly professional and effective they need other qualities. Students may not be able to put their finger on just why one teacher is more effective than another but we need to be able to identify the skills and behavior we require in a true professional.

A professional teacher needs to be confident without being arrogant. Nobody can expect to have all the answers, so if a student asks a real stinker, the professional teacher should be able to admit defeat but offer to find out more for the student. And they must carry that promise out.

Proper preparation is another crucial requirement of professionalism. When the teacher enters the classroom s/he should have all the required materials and the lesson plan ready. Nothing is more sloppy than poor preparation.

Interaction with the group needs professional standards of behavior: polite, firm and fair just about sum it up. And in orchestrating the class the teacher must give everyone their chance to contribute and should be flexible enough to modify lessons if they are obviously not going to plan. Indeed a fall-back position is part of good planning.

It stands to reason also that teacher must observe punctuality and appropriate tidiness and dress: it is not possible to demand such behavior from students if the teacher doesn’t set the standards. Indeed I can remember occasions on which students have complained to me about “scruffy” teachers.

The last thing I would mention is that teachers should be able to feel that their professionalism entitles them to back-up from the school directors. If a teacher has a problem class or student then the school should have procedures for handling the difficulties. The teacher should not have to feel alone and vulnerable if a difficult situation arises. So, yes, professionalism cuts both ways: in the standards we demand of teachers and the framework we have for giving them support.

Well, that's it for the day and here is a special poem dedicate to all teachers....

With a special gift for learning

And with a heart that deeply cares,

You add a lot of love

To everything you share,

And even though

You mean a lot,

You’ll never know how much,

For you helped
To change the world
Through every life you touched.
You sparked the creativity

In the students whom you taught,
And helped them strive for goals
That could not be bought,
You are such a special teacher
That no words can truly tell
However much you’re valued

For the work you do so well.

 

 

Nice song to all teachers...

MaMaZuE

 

Jodoh...topik yang indah di malam hari.....

Assalamualaikum....rajin la pulak menulis malam-malam ni....tetiba jer nak cakap pasal jodoh....sebuah topik yang kira agak menarik juga untuk dibentangkan dalam entri malam ni...ni semua kerana tajuk perbualan aku dengan anak-anak lelaki ku selepas menikmati makan malam dan selepas penat bekerja.....seronok apabila dapat mendengar luahan hati masing-masing dan mereka juga seronok apabila mendengar cerita-ceriti ku ....


Jodoh selalunya berkaitan dengan keturunan...adakah begitu???

Tidak,

Jodoh tiada kaitan dengan keturunan. Hanya belum sampai masanya. Ia
bagai menanti jambatan untuk ke seberang. Kalau panjang jambatannya
jauhlah perjalanan kita. Adaorg jodohnya cepat sebab jambatannya
singkat. Usia 25 tahun rasanya belumlah terlalu lewat. Dan usia 35
tahun belum apa2 kalau sepanjang usia itu telah digunakan untuk
membina kecemerlangan. Nyatakanlah perasaan dan keinginan anda itu
dalam doa2 lewat sembahyang. Allah mendengar.

Wanita baik untuk lelaki yang baik, sebaliknya wanita jahat untuk
lelaki yang jahat. Biar lambat jodoh asalkan mendapat Mr Right dan
biar seorang diri drpd menjadi mangsa lelaki yang tidak beriman
kemudian nanti.

Memang kita mudah ter silap mentafsir kehidupan ini. Kita selalu
sangka, aku pasti bahagia kalau mendapat ini. Hakikatnya, apabila kita
benar2 mendapat apa yang kita inginkan itu, ia juga dtg bersama
masalah.

Kita selalu melihat org memandu kereta mewah dan terdetiklah di hati
kita, bahagianya org itu. Hakikatnya apabila kita sendiri telah
memiliki kereta mewah kita ditimpa pelbagai kerenah. Tidak mustahil
pula org yang memandu kereta mewah(walaupun sebenarnya tak mewah)
terpaksa membayar lebih tatkala berhenti untuk membeli durian di tepi
jalan. Orang lain membeli dengan harga biasa, dia terpaksa membayar
berlipat ganda.

Ketika anda terperangkap dalam kesesakan jalan raya, motosikal
mencelah-celah hingga mampu berada jauh di hadapan. Anda pun mengeluh,
alangkah baiknya kalau aku hanya menunggang sebuah motosikal seperti
itu dan cepat sampai ke tempat yang dituju. Padahal si penunggang
motosikal mungkin sedang memikirkan bilakah dia akan memandu kereta di
tgh2 bandar raya.

Bukan semua yang anda sangka membahagiakan itu benar2 membahagiakan.
Bahagianya mungkin ada tapi deritanya juga datang sama. Semua benda,
pasti ada baik buruknya.

Demikian juga perkahwinan. Ia baik sebab ia dibenarkan oleh agama,
sunnah Nabi, sebagai saluran yang betul untuk melepaskan shahwat di
samping membina sahsiah dan sebagainya, tapi ia juga buruk sebab ramai
org yang berkahwin hidupnya semakin tidak terurus.

Ramai orang menempah neraka sebaik sahaja melangkahkan kaki ke alam
berumahtangga. Bukankah dengan ijab dan Kabul selain menghalalkan
hubungan kelamin, tanggungjawab yang terpaksa dipikul juga turut
banyak? Bukankah apabila anda gagal melaksanakannya, anda membina dosa
seterusnya jambatan ke neraka?

Berapa ramaikah yang menyesali perkahwinan masing2 padahal dahulunya
mereka bermati-matian membina janji, memupuk cinta kasih malah ada
yang sanggup berkorban apa sahaja asalkan segala impian menjadi nyata?

Jika tidak sanggup untuk bergelar isteri tidak usah berkahwin dulu.
Jika merasakan diri belum cukup ilmu untuk bergelar ibu ataupun ayah,
belajarlah dulu. Jika rasa2 belum bersedia untuk bersabar dgn kerenah
anak2, carilah dulu kesabaran itu. Jangan berkahwin dahulu sebab
kenyataannya ramai yang tidak bersedia untuk melangkah tetapi telah
melompat, akhirnya jatuh terjerumus dan tidak jumpa akar berpaut
tatkala cubamendaki naik.

Berkahwin itu indah dan nikmat bagi yang benar2 mengerti tuntutan2nya.

Berkahwin itu menjanjikan pahala tidak putus2 bagi yang menjadikannya
gelanggang untuk mengukuhkan iman, mencintai Tuhan dan menjadikan
syurga sebagai matlamat. Berkahwin itu semp adan dari ketidaksempurnaan
insan kepada kesempurnaan insan - bagi yang mengetahui rahsia2nya.

Berkahwinlah anda demi Tuhan dan Nabi-Nya, bukan berkahwin kerana
perasaan dan mengikut kebiasaan. Jodoh usah terlalu dirisaukan, tiba
masanya ia akan datang menjemput, namun perlu juga anda membuka
lorong2nya agar jemputan itu mudah sampai dan tidak terhalang. "

Seorang teman pernah berpesan..

"Kadang2 Allah sembunyikan matahari..
Dia datangkan petir dan kilat..
kita menangis dan tertanya-tanya,
kemana hilangnya sinar..
Rupa2nya.. Allah nak hadiahkan kita pelangi.." "


`Cinta yang disemadikan tidak mungkin layu selagi adanya imbas
kembali. Hati yang remuk kembali kukuh selagi ketenangan dikecapi.
Jiwa yang pasrah bertukar haluan selagi esok masih ada. Parut yang
lama pastikan sembuh selagi iman terselit didada...`


lagi satu, jangan lah terlalu tergopoh-gapah nak kahwin..buatlah perancangan yang terperinchi...agar kita tidak menyesal di kemudian hari....

ha ha ha ....sedap jugak lagu ni.....layannnnn....

 mAmAzUe

Is Really Blood Thicker Than Water....please read on....

Have you ever thought about the saying “blood is thicker than water” and what that en tales? Its such a simple phrase only 5 words long and yet it packs enough emotion to cause serious harm.

The phrase “Blood is thicker than water” is actually an old German proverb (originally: Blut ist dicker als Wasser.) It generally means that the bonds of family and common ancestry are stronger than those bonds between unrelated people (such as friendship).
When it comes to family when do we draw the line with loyalty? Are we eternally indebted by our family crests built on eons of genes, DNA and love or are we able to dash that all away for the sake of someone to which we have no genetic ties.

Whether your family is big or small there comes a point where the age old question of the thickness of blood comes into play. Once upon a time family values were to be honored in the highest regards and still is some cultures. Yet, in a modernized society family values and morals are defined differently by each individual member of the family. Some care about it and others could care less about where their loyalty lies. Their own selfish gains are what’s most important, and they’ll continually dabble in toxic liaisons with others regardless of the consequences it may hold.

My thoughts? The decisions that are made when choosing outsiders versus your family have the potential to seriously change your life and family dynamics. Think about the person you’re choosing over your family, if the decision came down to you and their family do you REALLY think they would honor their relationship with you over their family wishes? When opting to choose the ever translucent water over blood be prepared for the repercussions which may include alienation, severed ties and even worse…broken hearts.

There has come a time in my life where I’m looking around at the people who are family, and the people who I choose to call family and thinking it all over.

An ounce of blood is worth more than a pound of friendship. ~Spanish Proverb

They say blood is thicker than water. I see that, I would do anything for my sisters and brothers, be they full siblings or half. I would also do anything for Navy Guy, my chosen brother. He came into our lives and has been the best family anyone could ask for.

There's an awful lot of blood around that water is thicker than. ~Mignon McLaughlin

How do these people, best friends, children of people our parents once dated, sisters of boys we once dated who now live 3000 miles away, or sisters of friends we knew in high school, become family? And how is it that the people we choose as family can often warm our hearts so much more than people who are tied to us by blood or marriage? Well we often just plain like them more. At the same time they are often the people who care the most for you when they don’t owe you anything.

I’ve learned our place in a family, and the traditions we hold dear, should not be dependant on who we are married to. We can love people like family because we’ve married into them, we can leap gung-ho into their traditions forgoing building our own, but we need to know we’ve left ourselves open to losing that if our marriage falters.

Building a life no one can take away from you will protect you in a storm. And I think, after all of the sadness thinking about how what I lost, though I didn’t lose it in the end, I’m ready to build my own traditions, in my own home, with my children, my husband if he so chooses, and anyone who wants to be a part of my family.

‘if blood is thicker than water, then love is thicker than blood.’

Here’s to love being thicker than blood, now go give someone in our family a hug…tell them I miss them too!!!!