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My Family...My Life

Friday, February 4, 2011

Merisik dan bertanya khabar......




"Kami datang hanya nak jalan-jalan dan bertanya khabar " tetapi terkejut jugak bila didapati ada 3 bekas iringan yang dibawa......aduuuuiiii...macam-macam hal....

Aku diberitahu untuk berkumpul di rumah mertua untuk masak-memasak dan makan beramai-ramai sempena hari cuti ini...juga diberitahu terdapat  kumpulan 3 beranak dari Melaka untuk datang jalan-jalan sambil bertanya khabar....salah seorang dari mereka ini adalah rakan adik ipar bongsu ku....wah !!! ini mesti ada maksud yang tersurat dan tersirat  walaupun tidak secara rasmi....

Kami tidak pun menyediakan apa-apa bekas untuk dibalas secara rasmi...niat di hati, datang dan sempena waktu tengah hari, kami ajak makan nasi sahaja lah...


Al maklumlah, dengan musim yang tidak menentu ni, tak adalah hidangan yang istimewa...nak dapat ikan yang fresh pun susah waktu gini...hidangan ringkas kami hanyalah ayam kampung masak lemak cili padi, sayur pucuk paku goreng dan ikan goreng sahajalah nampaknya....

Tidak sempat lah nak menyediakan kuih muih....hanya ada kuih tepung pelita (aku beli), dan kuih akok (aishah beli)...ha ha ha....walau bagaimanapun,,,,meriah lah gak....terutama apabila kebanyakan adik beradik suami ku balik untuk memeriahkan suasana tengah hari jumaat ini....


selepas berborak , bergelak ketawa & berkenal sapa..maka dengan rendah dirinya emak si empunya diri telah memberitahu hajat utama mereka ke sini.....

kan dah kata....memang ada niat untuk menyunting si "mass mek bunga"  ni....
oh..rupanya dah disediakan dengan sebentuk cincin untuk di sarungkan ke jari mass mek bunga...apa-apa aje lah....

mulalah perincangan untuk menetapkan satu tarikh pertunangan antara mereka berdua.....wahhh.....ada jamuan lagi lah ni...apa-apa pun kita tunggu bab yang akan datang.....sebab cerita ini akan bersambung....

sebagai kakak ipar, aku mendoakan agar mass mekbunga ni di tetapkan hati dan perasaan terhadap jejaka idaman nya si jamaludin sahak...
semoga segalanya berjalan dengan lancar dan semoga berjaya tiba ke kemuncak nya...
maksud ku ke jinjang pelamin.....



 hanya satu saja peringatan untuk mereka berdua....
walaupun telah kenal berpuluh tahun, selagi tidak tinggal di bawah satu bumbung, selagi itu lah kita tidak mengenali satu sama lain dengan lebih mendalam.....
bersedialah kamu berdua menghadapi masa-masa yang akan datang bersama....
kita hanya merancang, Allah sahajalah yang menentukan......

Thursday, February 3, 2011

Jumaat datang lagi.......

assalamualaikum warahmatullahiwabarakatuh.....



SATU MINIT YANG SINGKAT!

Apabila ditanya apakah yang telah kita dilakukan satu jam yang lepas, mungkin kita akan berfikir-fikir dan akan cuba mengingatinya. Mungkin kita katakan, kita menonton TV atau berbual-bual kosong sahaja. Jika diukur dari sudut agama, mungkin satu jam yang lalu tiada langsung atau sedikit sahaja yang boleh dikaitkan untuk agama sebagai bekalan hidup kita selepas kematian.

Itu kalau ditanya untuk satu jam yang lalu. Bagaimana pula kalau ditanya, apa yang telah kita lakukan SATU MINIT yang lalu? Mungkin kita berkata tiada apa yang boleh diukur dan dinilai bagi tempoh tersebut kerana ia terlalu singkat.

Sedarkah bahawa dalam SATU MINIT kita boleh manfaatkan dengan pelbagai jenis amalan untuk mendapatkan pahala di sisi Allah (swt). Di antara amalan yang boleh kita lakukan dalam SATU MINIT adalah:-
  • Bertasbih sebanyak 100 kali
  • Membaca separuh atau lebih halaman mashaf al-Quran
  • Menelaah satu halaman buku
  • Menulis nasihat-nasihat
  • Membaca surah al-Ikhlas sebanyak tujuh kali
Inilah yang telah disebutkan oleh Allah (swt) dalam al-Quran;

“Demi masa! Sesungguhnya manusia itu dalam kerugian, kecuali orang-orang yang beriman dan beramal soleh, dan mereka yang berpesan-pesan dengan hak (kebenaran) serta berpesan-pesan dengan kesabaran.” (Surah al-‘Asr, ayat 1-3)

(Dipetik dengan sedikit ubahsuai buku adaptasi karya Dr. ‘Aidh al-Qarni)

Wallahu a’lam.


CARA KAUT UNTUNG BESAR DALAM SEMINIT

1. Anda boleh menyebut sebanyak 25 kali:

SUBHANALLAH
WALHAMDULILLAH
WALAILAAHA ILALLAH WALLAHUAKBAR

Sabda Rasulullah SAW:

“Terdapat empat kalimah yang paling disukai Allah, tidak salah bagi kamu untuk memulakan menyebut mana-mana satu darinya iaitu: Maha Suci Allah, Segala puji hanya bagi Allah, tiada tuhan melainkan Allah; dan Allah Maha besar.” (Riwayat Muslim)

2. Anda juga boleh menadah tangan berdoa meminta apa sahaja kepada Allah SWT.

Sabda Rasulullah SAW:

Tiada sesiapa daripada seseorang muslim yang berdoa kepada Allah bukan tujuan dosa atau memutuskan hubungan persaudaraan melainkan Allah berikan kepadanya salah satu dari tiga perkara: Ditunaikan segera permintaanya di dunia, dijadikan sebagai simpanan untuk bekalan di akhirat, atau pun dihindarkan daripadanya keburukan yang seimbang dengan permintaanya. Para sahabat berkata: Oleh itu kami akan memberbanyakkanya.

Sesungguhnya Tuhan kamu yang maha tinggi, amat malu dan maha mulia. Dia malu terhadap hambanya yang menadah doa tangan berdoa kepadanya untuk menolak tanpa apa-apa.


RAHSIA KALIMAH BISMILLAH

Lafaz: Bismillahirrahmanirrahiim

Diantara rahsia khasiatnya:

Dibacakan Bismillah pada telinga orang yang pengsan sebanyak 41 kali, insya’allah akan sedar dan kembali siuman.

Supaya cepat hajatnya dikabulkan Allah, bacalah Bismillah dengan menghadap kiblat sehingga matahari terbenam selepas solat asar dalam keadaan bersih, suci dari hadas dan najis. Kemudian, mohonlah pada Allah hajatnya. Insya’allah segera dikabulkan Allah dengan kemurahan sifat Rahman dan Rahim-Nya.

Agar sentiasa dilapangkan dan mudah urusan rezkinya serta disegani dimuliakan oleh makhluk, perbanyakkan membaca Bismillah sebanyak 66 kali dengan memanjangkan lafaz jalalahnya dan membaca doa: ‘Ya Allah, bukakanlah bagiku pintu rahmatmu dan kurniamu serta rezkimu. Curahkanlah keatasku perasaan redha kepadamu dan bertakwa kepadamu.Mudahkanlah bagiku untuk memperoleh rezkimu dan sekalian makhlukmu, sesungguhnya engkau berkuasa ke atas setiap sesuatu’.

Mengamalkan membaca Bismillah ketika hendak tidur sebanyak 21 kali nescaya aman dan bebas dari syaitan, kecurian, maut mengejut dan bala bencana.

Membaca Bismillah ketika hendak menyetubuhi isterinya, kelak anaknya menjadi orang yang cerdas dan terbuka hati sehingga menjadi anak yang soleh.

Membaca Bismillah pada hari Ahad disaat matahari terbit dengan menghadap kiblat sebanyak 313 kali dan selawat ke atas Nabi Muhammad sebanyak 100 kali, Allah menganugerahkan rezki padanya tanpa diduga sama sekali.

Sabda Nabi Muhammad S.A.W: ‘Bahawa sesuatu perbuatan yang baik tanpa dimulai dengan Bismillah maka ia akan terputus dari rahmat Allah S.W.T’

Dalam riwayat yang lain Nabi Muhammad S.A.W bersabda: ‘Tiada seorang hamba yang mengucapkan Bismillah kecuali Allah memerintahkan malaikat yang bertugas mencatat amal manusia untuk mencatat dalam buku amalannya 400 kebaikan’

Oleh yang demikian marilah kita berlumba-lumba mengejar rahmat Allah yang luas dengan memperbanyakkan bacaan Bismillah dalam setiap amalan kehidupan harian kita. Wallahualam.

 
FIKIR-FIKIRKAN DAN RENUNG-RENUNGKAN

1. Berzikir dengan banyak TANPA berselawat ialah laluan untuk menjadi iblis, Manakala banyak berselawat dan banyak berzikir itu laluan untuk menjadi hamba Allah.

2. "misi kalian bukanlah mengeluarkan mereka dari Islam, walaupun yang terakhir ini merupakan keberhasilan yang paling gemilang. Tapi lebih pada usaha bagaimana menjauhkan mereka dari Islam.. jadikanlah mereka sebagai orang Islam yang tidak kenal agamanya sendiri, orang Islam yang gemar berfoya-foya, suka dengan kemaksiatan, hidup semata-mata untuk cari harta dan jabatan..jika umat Islam sudah menjadi seperti ini, maka misi kalian sudah berhasil..laksanakan dan tunaikan misi kalian ini dengan penuh kesedaran - ucapan di Persidangan Yahudi di Basle, Switzerland : 1897, Oleh Theodore Hertzel - pencetus idea penubuhan negara Yahudi (tulis buku Negara Yahudi : 1895)



 

happy chinese new year.....


badan memang rasa tidak berapa sihat hari ini...
nasib baik jugak dapat cuti 5 hari...
if not tak tahu lah apa nak jadi...
alamat tidak pergi kerja lah if gaya macam ni...

tetiba aku dikunjungi oleh anak-anak sedaraku,
bersama seorang yang ku kenali dulu,
rupa-rupanya ada udang sebalik batu,
kenalan ku menjadi bakal teman yang satu....

meriah jugaklah dengan kehadiran mereka,
gelak ketawa kami sambil bercerita,
malangnya tiada hidangan istiwewa,
hanya dengan limau mandarin yang ada...

ha ha ha....



By the way, i would like to wish all my chinese friends "a happy & prosperous Chinese New Year" and may it be the BEST CHINESE NW YEAR TO ALL OF YOU OUT THERE...

it's a year of the RABBIT....

What the chinese believe is that it is indeed...

"a placid year, very much welcomed and needed after the ferocious year of the Tiger. We should go off to some quiet spot to lick our wounds and get some rest after all the battles of the previous year.

Good taste and refinement will shine on everything and people will acknowledge that persuasion is better than force. A congenial time in which diplomacy, international relations and politics will be given a front seat again. We will act with discretion and make reasonable concessions without too much difficulty.

A time to watch out that we do not become too indulgent. The influence of the Rabbit tends to spoil those who like too much comfort and thus impair their effectiveness and sense of duty.

Law and order will be lax; rules and regulations will not be rigidly enforced. No one seems very inclined to bother with these unpleasant realities. They are busy enjoying themselves, entertaining others or simply taking it easy. The scene is quiet and calm, even deteriorating to the point of somnolence. We will all have a tendency to put off disagreeable tasks as long as possible.

Money can be made without too much labor. Our life style will be languid and leisurely as we allow ourselves the luxuries we have always craved for. A temperate year with unhurried pace. For once, it may seem possible for us to be carefree and happy without too many annoyances".......


SO, how's that gonna be...hopefully it turns out to be a splendid year for all of us, too....

........A person born in the year of the Rabbit possesses one of the most fortunate of the twelve animal signs. The Rabbit, or Hare as he is referred to in Chinese mythology, is the emblem of longevity and is said to derive his essence from the Moon......

......A child born in the Rabbit's year will have a sweet disposition. Even-tempered and obedient, he will be sensitive to the moods of his parents and act accordingly. He may or may not be talkative, but he won't be rowdy or offensive. He can sit quietly and concentrate on one toy or game at a time......

Unfortunately, none of my sons was born in the year of the rabbit...ha ha ha...I was born in the year of the TIGER, My husband was born in  the year of the RAT,,,,,,Along was born in the year of  the SNAKE, Angah was born in the year of the MONKEY, Achik was born in the year of the DOG, Nasrul was born in the year of the PIG, and Adik was born in the year of the OX.....so no rebbits in the family....

Whatever it is, enjoy yourself  as it is gonna be a very long weekend....when the chinese are having their gatherings, we too are having our gatherings at home....not going anywhere but spending our time quietly in the house....




 

Tuesday, February 1, 2011

Reasons to smile......


How can one smile such sweet smiles,
When one is so saddened by sorrows for miles,
How can I smile the same smiles,
When life brings me nothing but tears,
I wondered for so long,
What reason you had to smile that long,
To keep smiling though troubles come,
And still remain sweet and silently overcome,
It's such a mystery to me,
Your smiles from heaven with glee,
I adore and yet envy thee,
But I'd rather you smile those at me,
I feel happy when I see you smile,
Even if I'm sad and lonely,
Your smiles bring me somewhere,
I don't even know where,
But it was you,
You gave me the reason to smile,
To smile with no reason,
To smile for a smile,
I guess life is just like that,
We need not have a reason to smile,
For a smile is the reason itself,
To rejoice and open-heartedly give thanks,
I learned to smile because of you,
Because your smiles bring me joy when blue,
It proves how well and powerful,
A simple sweet smile can become so beautiful,
Smile for the sake of a smile,
Smile for the sake of happiness,
Smile for the sake of life,
Smile because of hope left in life,
Smile my friends,
Smile for me my Love,
Smile those same sweet smiles,

If someone is too tired to give you a smile, leave one of your own because no one needs a smile as much as those who have none to give.....




A smile is a curve that sets everything straight....

Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment or the samllest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.....





so why is it so difficult to smile....



"senyuman itu satu sedekah"






Monday, January 31, 2011

The story touches my heart deeply and tenderly....



a very interesting and touching story.....

please read it till the end and extract some morals out of it....


Someone sent me this article, something that makes you think of the things that we take for granted

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After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I love you but I know this other woman loves you and would love to spend some time with you.
The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years, but the
demands of my work and my three children had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner and a movie.

"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? My mother is the type of woman who suspects that a late night call
or a surprise invitation is a sign of bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to be with you," I responded. "Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, "I would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous about our date. She waited in the doo! r with her coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last wedding anniversary.

She smiled from a face that was as radiant as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, "she said, as she got into the car."They can't wait to hear about our meeting". We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu. Half way through the entries, I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation - nothing extraordinary, but catching up on recent events of each other's life. We talked so much that! we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later! , she sa id, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me invite you." I agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home. "Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I did not get to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same place mother and I had dined.

An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never know what that night meant for me. I love you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "
I LOVE YOU !" and to give our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off till "some other time."

Pass this along to everyone with an aging parent, to a child, to an adult, to anyone with a parent. Here's hoping today is better than yesterday and tomorrow.

 "Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away!"


Cheers!




Sunday, January 30, 2011

Rahsia Air Mata Wanita



""Suatu ketika, seorang anak bertanya kepada ibunya, “Ibu, mengapa ibu menangis?” Ibunya menjawab, “Sebab ibu adalah perempuan, nak.” “Saya tak mengerti ibu,” kata si anak. Ibunya hanya tersenyum dan memeluknya erat. “Nak, kau memang tak akan mengerti…”

Kemudian si anak bertanya kepada ayahnya. “Ayah, mengapa ibu menangis?” “Ibumu menangis tanpa sebab yang jelas.” sang ayah menjawab. “Semua perempuan memang sering menangis tanpa alasan.”

Si anak membesar menjadi remaja, dan dia tetap terus bertanya-tanya, mengapa perempuan menangis? Hingga pada suatu malam, ia bermimpi dan bertanya kepada Tuhan, “Ya Allah, mengapa perempuan mudah menangis?” Dalam mimpinya ia merasa seolah mendengar jawapannya:

“Saat Ku ciptakan wanita, saya membuatnya menjadi sangat utama. Kuciptakan bahunya, agar mampu menahan seluruh beban dunia dan isinya, walaupun juga bahu itu harus cukup nyaman dan lembut untuk menahan kepala bayi yang sedang tertidur.

“Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk dapat melahirkan bayi dari rahimnya, walau kerap berulangkali menerima cerca dari si bayi itu apabila ia telah membesar.

“Kuberikan keperkasaan yang akan membuatnya tetap bertahan, pantang menyerah saat semua orang sudah putus asa.

“Ku berikan kesabaran jiwa untuk merawat keluarganya walau dia sendiri letih, walau sakit, walau penat, tanpa berkeluh kesah.

“Kuberikan wanita perasaan peka dan kasih sayang untuk mencintai semua anaknya dalam kondisi dan situasi apapun. Walau acapkali anak-anaknya itu melukai perasaan dan hatinya. Perasaan ini pula yang akan memberikan kehangatan pada anak-anak yang mengantuk menahan lelap. Sentuhan inilah yang akan memberikan kenyamanan saat didekap dengan lembut olehnya.

“Kuberikan wanita kekuatan untuk membimbing suaminya melalui masa-masa sulit dan menjadi pelindung baginya. Sebab bukannya tulang rusuk yang melindungi setiap hati dan jantung agar tak terkoyak.

“Kuberikan kepadanya kebijaksanaan dan kemampuan untuk memberikan pengertian dan menyedarkan bahwa suami yang baik adalah yang tak pernah melukai isterinya. Walau seringkali pula kebijaksanaan itu akan menguji setiap kesetiaan yang diberikan kepada suami agar tetap berdiri sejajar, saling melengkapi dan saling menyayangi.

“Dan akhirnya, Kuberikan ia air mata, agar dapat mencurahkan perasaannya. Inilah yang khusus kepada wanita, agar dapat ia gunakan bila masa pun ia inginkan. Ini bukan kelemahan bagi wanita, kerana sebenarnya air mata ini adalah “air mata kehidupan.”
"

Aku juga akan menangis kehibaan bila mengenangkan peristiwa-peristiwa pahit yang telah berlaku....menangis mengingati hal-hal peribadi yang telah mengecewakan hati dan jiwa....menangis ketika membesarkan kesemua anak-anakku....menangis akan trajedi-trajedi yang telah melukakan perasaan aku selama ini....

sekarang, aku akan menangis di hadapan Mu, Ya Allah, memohon keredhaan, keampunan, keberkatan dan kerahmatan dalam menjalani ranjau-ranjau berduri perjalanan kehidupan ini....tangisan ku adalah seumpama rayuan kepada Mu, agar disinari hidup ini dengan penuh cahaya yang gilang gemilang....semoga di beri kekuatan, ketabahan, keyakinan ,kesabaran dan keimanan agar tidak mudah jatuh dan mudah kalah dalam mengatasi masalah-masalah yang dihadapi .....

How many tears have been shed,
because of few words said,
by voices low and deep,

how many more must weep,
withhold them, they cannot keep,
down faces very pale,

through grief; the silent wail,
battling emotions, they fail,
yet inside they harden,

though they beg for pardon,
hearts locked up by wardens,
who really has the key?

A lioness all will see,
selflessly, protects her family,
yet inside a mouse,

rocking numbly in her house,
always pining for her spouse,
those escaping little tears,

exposing all her fears,
subjecting her to jeers,
but her soul's strong,

though they do her wrong,
she'll bite her willing tongue,
bottled in her head.

Many more tears shed,
ringing her eyes with dread,
underneath they simmer,

resolving with a glimmer,
blurring smiles with a shimmer,
they fall without sound,

fresh throughout the rounds,
pacing the same ground,
so soft she was made,

but, she must stand brave,
his mercy does she crave,

Women's silent tears
"see u 2morro"

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Good morning to all


Hi morning everyone....

wow, what a chilling sunday today...woke up very early to send the children to school and started blogging for a while coz gonna go to the market today to get some fresh food.....

It's a last sunday for the month and January is leaving us by tomorrow to welcome the new February.....MOnths passed by so swiftly and memories of yesteryears are still fresh in one's mind...

Some friends did ask me many times, "Hei, Kak Zu, u really have time now, facebooking, then now blogging.  We just could not find time for all that...we are very busy even at home...I'm quite proud of u!!!"...

well, is that a compliment or an insinuation (sindiran)? 

It could be both..i think lah...but to me, no matter how busy i am at home, i'll try to find a time (my own time) for all those things to be done...i could still read and write at the same time.... I like to browse the internets and look for nice articles to be shared with my friends...it could be poems, short stories, motivational articles and religious knowledgeable articles to suit my writing mood for the day...

I was really proud of myself, since i first wrote my articles and published in the notes at facebook walls, i received a number of friends' invitations...But i really thank God coz one of my writings had really transformed one person in her life....that is really a surprise to me....I told myself "Alhamdulillah...Well done, zue, you had done a charity in a way!"....

Really, I am very passionate about having what i learn in order to help others,,,The blog provides me a fantastic place for me to explore what I learn with a community that is also interested in learning....To me, life is a learning experience , the more i pay attention to it and use what i learn from my readings, the better my life becomes....

Since my younger days, i had been collecting wisdom words, quotations , sayings and motivational short stories from my friends via books and magazines...Those days, we didn't have computers nor internets...so reading was our only source.....so, now, i spread my wings and managed to get all those interesting articles thru the emails and internets....

Thru all these kind of hobbies, I don't grow old easily, i guess...my mind is always filled up with all the good things in life even though there are always hardships in leading the path...i overcome it by not thinking about the problems faced because i know that worrying does not take away tomorrow's troubles, it takes away today's peace...

So, i  decide to be happy and the rest is a matter of experiences or circumstances.....

Finally, do always remember that you are today where your thoughts have brought you, you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.....


mama zue